DP and I are getting married soon. We want it to be just the two of us, with two witnesses of course. We weren't going to tell family until after the event but we are wondering if it would be better to let people know before instead?
We are concerned that this will mean some people will push for an invitation (or just turn up anyway!). We really don't like being the centre of attention and don't want any fuss whatsoever. We have been together a long time and getting married is really just formalising our relationship, as romantic as that sounds! I can't bear the thought of being watched!
There are also family issues which would cause a big headache with who to invite and we really don't want the stress and hassle.
How do we tell them without causing offence?
If it helps, our witnesses will be our mothers. My mum and a few of my siblings know, but DP's family have no idea. My family have supported our decision and are happy for us to do what we want to do, but his family are more involved with each other than mine, and they will expect to be there.