I have a group of friends who I don't really see very often anymore. One of them is having her hen do next weekend and it's costing a fortune. I'm on maternity pay and it just seems to be money after money. One of the girls asked for some money as she is driving but it seemed a lot for the amount of miles we are doing so I said I might get my OH to take me. They then questioned why etc and I said if I'm honest it is costing a lot of money which I don't have. I said it's her day and I'll do it but it's just a struggle.
She then said to me basically to shut up and not moan to her as it's ruining her day, I said I didn't want that which is why I said I'll do it but I would rather be honest as to why I'm finding it hard. She said she would rather I just moaned to the other girls about her, I then said I would not be a true friend if I just bitched behind her back, like the other girls. But she carried on saying that's what she would rather do. This weekend will cost me the best part of £200.. and I feel like they just want me there for the sake of it. If she had said I know it's a lot but I really want you there it would have made me feel better. I feel like flaking and just risk losing the friendship as it has been strained for a long time anyway.. one of them has never seen my 5 month old boy and the girl who's hen do it is has only seen him twice and that was only because she came to collect the £70 for the hotel which I paid. What would you do? Am I being unreasonable? Honest opinions all welcome.