Wedding Anxiety

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We are in the process of organising dates, reservations, registrars etc. We are beyond excited about this, we've been together for a long time, and I never expected to get married. I was so happy in my little life - and he just took it to the next level. still on cloud 9
However - in all this booking, you then have to wait for confirmations, some confirmations can only happy after others - and it is making my anxiety go through the roof that something is going to go wrong.
(Doesn't help that some of the council people i have spoken to are SO rude!

Why do our brains play these tricks on us. What am I going to be like closer to the day? DP keeps saying everything will be fine, we can look at other things if it some things fail, that I need to make sure it doesn't take over. He is very level headed, I am not.
Please tell me your stories of how your wedding booking and planning went perfectly. If there is such a story! Ha!

My planning and wedding went perfectly. The only fly in the ointment was my Mum's passive aggressive digs during the planning but we sailed on regardless and had one of my Brothers on 'Mum watch' on the day.

Wedding madness comes if you set your heart on one particular thing and cannot cope with the idea of changing your 'vision' of how it will be. Don't think of it as 'going wrong' but as an opportunity to change your mind.
The wedding is the important bit and the party afterwards secondary.
Congratulations

Ours went really well.
We were engaged for 3 months. Got engaged in Jan 2015. We set the date in February 2015, and got married in April 2015. So literally had 2 months to organise it all.
It was easy for me because I knew exactly what I wanted in terms of dress, flowers, cake, and so on. So literally all we had to do was find the best place to get things from (now dh knew good places), and go and get it organised.
Our biggest thing was the very short time scale, but it worked and we done it.
I was also pregnant at the time, so trying not to stress out as much as possible. But I honestly didn't find planning a wedding hard or stressful at all. I do think it helped knowing exactly what I wanted beforehand though, as it meant we were able to go and say "this is what we want and this is when we need it for".
Only downside was the mobile hairdresser my husband recommended didn't turn up on the day, and despite numerous attempts no one could get hold of her, so I couldn't have my hair the way I was hoping for. But that was it.
Good luck. I hope it all works out for you

Thank You! Please for a positive story! I hope it was as wonderful as you expected it to be!!
We are having a very small ceremony, and only a few more additional on the evening - so far no issues here.
It's around confirming dates, I don't get Venue confirmation till next Tuesday - and I have already arranged my registrar for the date. What if the venue don't confirm - Ahhhh
I have got so ahead of myself - I know that, and I know i'm making it worse! DP says that once this is confirmed that everything will calm down - because the most important pieces - location, me, him and someone to marry us - is all confirmed and booked. Everything else is bonus.
I just want to marry him already!!!

We're in the same boat.
I'd never imagined myself getting married (I wanted to, just didn't think anyone else would want my crazy arse ) but now I feel so unprepared and like something's going to go wrong or I'm going to forget something!
I thought it was venue, dress, cake, food how wrong was I!
We're meeting photographers atm and Monday night one came around and at the end she asked if we had any questions and I was like no? Should I? Then she said would you like to book? And I was like.. oh god no I've got to meet others, does everyone meet others? Did I string the poor woman along?!
I'm actually considering hiring a wedding planner because it's keep me up at night!

Alletrix Congratulations!! We have been very lucky that our Venue have a fantastic package, so there is very little we need to arrange separately - but that is making me feel very pressured about confirming the venue!

I really hope that once this is all confirmed - should be all completed by next Friday - that I will let my head relax!

Try to relax if you can. I don't know anyone whose wedding planning went completely without a hitch but in the grand scheme of things it doesn't matter as long as you end up married.
We had to change our venue and date approx 6 months before the wedding (6 months after it had been booked) thanks to a spectacular cock up on the part of our venue.
It rained all day on what should have been our wedding day and we had glorious sunshine. The new venue was one we hadn't considered originally but it was beautiful and much more personal than our original choice. We ended up really happy that we hadn't ended up with our original plan although it felt like a disaster at the time.
You sound so happy to be getting married - that's the thing that will guarantee you have a great wedding, everything else is just fluff. 😀

Thank you 3boys! That's what I want to hear - everything changed for you, and it still ended up amazing!
I genuinely never thought we would get married, I was happy in my bubble, I knew we would be together for as long as possible and marriage was not a thing for us... and then he asked me!! He is a groomzilla, I am super anxiety bride. If when this venue confirms, all will be well!

Your DP is right - I found trying to arrange the venue and the church on the same day incredibly stressful, but after that I really quite enjoyed wedding planning! When the big stuff is in place, it becomes a lot more fun

Hey ladies! Summer 2018 bride here, so far have enjoyed all the planning. We’re getting married in a different country to where we live aswell but after meeting the wedding manager at our venue before we booked we’re confident everything will run smooth.

I’ve found that friends and family who have recently been through organising a wedding are full of helpful tips. A couple below:

If you’re having professional photos taken and have plans for some shots with specific people only give the photographer a list of names for who you want in which shots for him/her to call. Can imagine it gets awkward when they say “family only for this one” and a couple of extras decide to hop in.

Consider a wedding website to put finer details on rather than additional invite pages which may save you on extra printing/postage.

Accept that you can't please everyone!

McTufty I think it will be the same for me, i just need this part out the way and know the important stuff is done!
KTMorton The photographer thing seriously just made me laugh!
Our entire wedding, is only family.
We are not social, so genuinely would not want any of our 'friends' there. We are also getting married away from home - which is why i think it is adding to my anxiety!
I would love for a 'Family in this one' and the ENTIRE wedding party walks up!
I'm at peace with not pleasing anyone, as long as me and DP are happy - we are staying at the location the night before the wedding too (if venue gets confirmed on tuesday!!) and my mother is desperate to stay with us.
Please help! ha!