Does this sound grabby?

[Alyosha]

Fiance and I have been living together for ages, so don't really need anything extra for the house. We are having a lovely honeymoon which is paid for.

We want to convey in our invites the following things...

We really don't need any presents - we just want the guests to be there to celebrate with us
If they do want to get us something, we'd really appreciate a donation to our honeymoon, but again, no pressure.

We were thinking we could put things to do on our honeymoon that people could contribute to - i.e. a gondola ride/visit to pisa etc. etc. Is this super grabby? Should we leave that bit out?

Is there any way to stop this coming off as grabby?

Lots of great opinions here!

I think you're all right that we should drop the whole "Oh we don't want anything". Because actually we would love some Honeymoon spending money.

It sounds like a lot of people would find this grabby, but lots of others wouldn't mind...

I'm thinking that we'll leave it completely out of the invite, and instead just have a gifts section on the website, so people who want to give us a gift will look for it and see it, and everyone else can ignore it.

Thanks for the feedback!

Mimisunshine - love that idea! Really thoughtful.

I think that's a good idea. There is no issue in saying you want money to anyone who wants to give you a gift, but saying you want money on the invite is a bit cringe. And it's even more cringe when you present it as "we don't really want anything but go on then can you give us some cash".