Save the date cards ...

[ExplodingCarrots]

Did you send these out for day & evening guests or day guests only?

I want to ideally send to both but don't want to cause any confusion. Don't want an evening guest to think they'll be expecting a day invite etc.

OTOH I don't want to have to do 2 types of save the dates because of cost.

I can't remember ever having a save the date card for an evening invite.

Oh and we didn't put that on the invite, it was on our wedding website on the FAQs page.

I'm in the camp that says it's bad form to mention gifts on the actual invitation!

I think it will have to be on the invitation if we say something. No other way to get message across. Will probably say something similar to what backforgood said.

If we do get gifts then that's fine obviously. I've had loads of invites with cringy poems and it's something I've always said I'd never do.

Agree with you about cringy poems, I think the vast majority of MN does too!

Personally I wouldn't appreciate being told categorically "no gifts" or "don't buy a gift" because I actually like giving gifts and wouldn't like to be told not to! However I'm sure if you word it carefully it won't come across as rude.

Wedding etiquette can be such a minefield can't it?!

I would omit all mention of gifts, then if someone enquires, you can tell them your preference for none. Word will spread via the grapevine.