So, we had a big stately home wedding planned. All well and lovely. Financing the entire thing ourselves and absolutely fine with that, haven't expected a penny from either family. Already asked bridesmaid and best man.
Fast forward to now, we are moving in 2 weeks, and both cars are on their last legs. We have been massively hit by moving costs as there has been delays and it needs a lot of cosmetic work/carpets etc.
So, looking at our now ruined finances, we cannot afford the stately home,or even other local hotels etc. We thought about eloping a while ago when we decided that actually we might not want a big wedding and we mentioned it to various family, and it went down like a cup of cold sick. Especially with future MIL who 'wants to see her only son marry' and SIL who 'is seeing her brother get married if she has to pay for herself'
We want to elope, just us and our 3 kids. Without the massive guilt trip. I don't want to upset anyone but it looks like we will anyway. We don't want to just do registry office and restaurant etc. We just want a chilled day, my OH hates being the centre of attention and is saying that we aren't putting it back and slinging ourselves for longer to make sure we are feeding everyone else by putting ourselves on the breadline for the next year.
We just want to be married, I don't care about fancy food and discos. All I want is to be married and have beautiful photos to look back on.
So, after my waffling...WWYD? Elope and piss everyone off, or have a wedding we don't want and skint ourselves in the process to please everyone else? I know it sounds like a simple answer but I am wary of starting married life and not enjoying our day as we have upset people.