in laws that hate each other

[GreenGoth89]

Most of DP's family hate each other, both mothers have said they won't drink, and I'm struggling to find a way we can have his family together without there being harsh words or a punch up. We really don't want an elopement, and they'll be helping financially (not massively though) so need to be involved.

Any inventive ideas?

Ha! Sounds like mine.

I read SFIL the riot act... he was meek as a lamb and said he wouldn't ruin our day or all of him! He didn't. He was lovely. MIL was pissed as usual, but on good form. FIL brought his gf - who was noticably pregnant, if you looked. They too were lovely. BIL and PoisonousSIL nearly kicked off about FIL and his inconsiderateness!!

Then SILs gf did kick off... threatened to glass me when I asked her to shut the fuck up! Hid in a garden shed and shouted loudly that we were all gay bashing racists! Well... I told her that ther sexuality and colour were not the issue but her swearing and threatening behaviour was! She cried!!

Meanwhile an old family friend was teaching BIL to snort a condom up his nose and the see-saw it through his nose and mouth!

We left early... apparently my aunt did a runner on a bill, DHs cousins had a fight and beat each other up - ambulance was required... 27 years later we remain officially oblivious to it all

Let them do what they will. Weddings are more fun if they are outrageous... or so I am assured by DSis

I really don't want a bloodbath! I think we'll just have to not invite certain people and maybe just have some at the reg office...so sad that it's come to this

I just read that back... ye gods but I can see why we went NC with the whole bloody lot of them!

Read them the riot act. Either they undertake to behave or they are not invited. Then have some trusted friends briefed to step in on the day if needed. I have been to two weddings where this technique worked.

First thing is that you would be daft to let them contribute to the wedding. Take control and pay for it yourself then you won't have anyone thinking they have a say in anything.

Then make sure you do t discuss any of the wedding details so no one has a chance to get opinionated and stoppy before the wedding

Lastly have a late wedding that goes straight into the evening so people aren't hanging around all day getting drunk and irritable.