How much to give as wedding present??

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My cousin is getting married, we are fond of each other but not that close- meet about once a year, Christmas usually. He's mid30s, got a decent job, nice flat , im 40s, 3 kids, decent job. They've asked for money as a present, instead of gifts because there's nothing they really need for the house. Fair enough- but how much to give? £100 seems a bit mean. Does it? But £200 seems like a lot. Or does it? They're having a fairly big wedding, 150 people, and we are travelling there, staying 2 nights inhotel, us & 3 kids, that's costing about £300. Or is that not relevant? What do you think?

£100 sounds like loads! How much would you have spent on a gift?

Why does £100 sound mean?

I think 150

Oh great thanks! I tried to work out what i'd spend on a gift but don't know what it would be So you don't think £100 sounds mean? Is £100 too much??

It's not too much, but it's not mean either did they include a poem??

£150? I dont think i would buy a present that cost that much though. With hotel, drinks, meals, petrol, outfits for the kids, this wedding is costing as much as a holiday already...

Where I live £100 is standard of going all day to a wedding and £50 if only going to the evening do. So I'd say £100 is fine.

I'm going to a wedding on Friday and giving £25! But I have zero income because I'm a student so to be honest that's loads for me I say just give what is fair and appropriate for your own circumstances

If give £50 and would think they'd be chuffed with that.

Unless guests are skint, single or coming from a long way away that's the usual per couple I should say.

Thanks everyone!

I think £100 is ok but I'd give more. I know it's hated on Mumsnet but I'd feel bad giving a lot less than the bride and groom would have spent on my meal and drinks. If I was going to a bring your own booze barn dance type wedding is give less than if it was at a fancy venue.

Not many posters like this plan though

But, Woah, if they had a traditional wedding list that you chose a gift from, I would select a cheaper gift, simply because we are putting so much money in just to attend- & that seems fairer to me. Most of the other guests live locally (and have no children) so it's not such an expense for them. That's where the old fashioned wedding list was a lot better than this business of giving cash!