Anyone want to give me some feedback on our wedding menu?

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So, after the ceremony, we'll have a drinks reception. Prosecco, beers, Kir Imperials and mulled cider. Canapés - mini goats cheese tarts with caramelised onion, mini Yorkshire puddings with roast beef and horseradish, smoked salmon on wholegrain bread with chive creme fraiche, and crostini topped with black pudding and caramelised red onion.

Starter - crab and cheddar tart or vegetable soup (we will have a few fussy eaters so the veggie soup is a safe option for them).

Main - choice of fillet steak with colcannon and red wine gravy. Or Pancetta wrapped breast of chicken with stuffing, gravy, and roast potatoes. Or sea bass with roasted vine cherry tomatoes and roasted crushed potatoes.

All will be served with vegetables.

Dessert will be apple crumble and custard.

There will also be vegetarian and coeliac options.

Are we overlooking anything? Would you eat it? We've got some very fussy eaters, so want to make sure they will eat something, but also don't want the menu to be too boring.

While I love crudites and olives I'm not sure that they would go down that well. It is difficult to cater for absolutely everyone and I'm sorry LeaLeander but fussy eaters are a pain if catering for large numbers of people, unless it was a buffet.

I know, and I don't think the OP should feel obliged. I'm accustomed to filling up before I go to events where the food might not suit me. Many picky eaters are.

But she asked so I answered honestly.

Oh my goodness, so many replies. Sorry, I wasn't being rude and ignoring the responses, just didn't have a chance to get back until now.

Re the vegetarian option, we plan to speak to the vegetarians we know and ask what they'd like to see on the menu. Definitely won't be mushroom risotto, as they have mentioned previously that they get so tired of mushroom risotto being the go to vegetarian option. So I'd rather get some feedback from them as to what they'd enjoy than randomly select something.

Only one of our guests is coeliac, and yes, we will make sure that they are well catered for, and that they are given suitable canapés.

The vegetable soup is probably a bit boring, but the caterer recommended it as a safe option.

The goats cheese tart, yes I understand that it won't appeal to everyone. I personally loathe goats cheese. One of our vegetarian guests requested that we have something with goats cheese on the menu as they adore it, so that's why we included it.

On the beef, it will be steaks cooked to order as opposed to a roast beef, so no worries about it being too rare for anyone. The gravy will be served on the side.

To the poster who asked, yes, we are in . Wedding will be in rural Ireland in autumn, so we were trying to go kind of rustic and hearty with the menu. We'll have an ice cream medley for anyone who finds the crumble dessert to be too stodgy.

For the children that will be there, the caterer will do a half portion of any of the mains, or chicken/sausages and chips. We will let the parents decide which they prefer.

I hope that answers most of the questions! Tbh, anyone in rl that we've described the menu to have been very enthusiastic about it. So it's great to get alternative points of view. The most important thing to us is that everyone gets a lovely meal that they enjoy. They are coming to celebrate a choice that we have made, the least we can do is feed them well and give them a very enjoyable day!

'To the poster who asked, yes, we are in'. Shite. Yes we are in Ireland, that was supposed to say

I think you've covered all your bases brilliantly, unless you've got any massive pains it should feed everyone well.
By pains I mean rude people, not anyone with allergies.

Sounds absolutely delicious. My only problem would be choosing which option to go for.

My only bugbear with wedding food is insufficient vegetables. When they put one small platter down for 5 or 6 people . I don't want to be fighting over carrots or only having one floret of brocolli!

(We had a "go up and select it" main course so people could be specific about what veg they wanted and how much to go with their preordered main. Unfortunately the caterers "helpfully" brought plates to the top table for us. Not enough veg on mine. )

Brillo we do have some massive pains that are unbelievably fussy, but honestly, unless we served mashed potatoes with naked chicken, they'd not eat anything, so we've decided to just belt away with a menu that will suit most of our guests. The vegetable soup will definitely appeal to the picky eaters, and we'll make sure that there's loads of potatoes and vegetables for them. The caterer will also roast some plain chicken breasts for the few who won't eat chicken with stuffing or pancetta.

honeysuckle, the caterer had said that they will serve the accompaniments for the main family style, so big dishes of the vegetables and boats full of gravy and sauce on the table for people to help themselves to. We will make sure that there is an abundance of vegetables, I've seen the sad, hungry head on my Dad at a wedding where he got one little roastie and a spoonful of carrots and broccoli .

I think you are being MORE than generous with your list of choices. If I go to a wedding, I expect to eat what I'm given (with the option of letting them know of any dietary requirements in advance).

It's a lovely menu and all sounds wonderful apart from the vegetable soup, nice to see that tomato and basil hasn't been chosen though - that was the only starter at the last couple of weddings I've been to and the smell alone makes me feel ill.

Thanks, Back. We spent hours with the caterer, trying to cover all the bases. It really is difficult to cater for everyone.

We're thinking of changing the starter though, as crab clearly doesn't appeal to everyone. Perhaps a smoked haddock fish cake?

Madison, I agree that the vegetable soup is rather boring. It was suggested as a safe back up option for those who wouldn't enjoy the starter. Are you a vegetarian? Would you prefer another vegetarian option for the starter? We could probably ask the caterer to do that. Would love some suggestions as to what to go with though, as some of our friends have said 'goats cheese is a must as a veggie option', while others have said 'please don't make me suffer through another goat's cheese tart'

Drinks and canapes sound nice. Make sure they put a plate of canapes to one side for you and your dh - at my wedding people kept telling me how wonderful the canapes were and I never managed to try any of them because people kept buttonholing me to talk and I didn't manage to catch any of the servers to get any. And when I finally did, they'd all run out

Would be very underwhelmed by the starters - I know I can make a nice veggie soup but I've never managed to have a decent one when out, they usually taste like dishwater so I'd want to be really sure that the caterer could do a nice one. And I don't like crab so that would be out for me too. Fishcakes are often quite heavy for a starter - and they can make the whole place smell fishy which is something you might want to avoid! Oh and avoid any brightly coloured soups like tomato or beetroot - you don't want to end up with it spilt down your wedding dress or splashed by somebody else!

Steak sounds nice but I'm somebody that usually avoids fillet steak because I find rump, sirloin or ribeye to be tastier. And having mash/colcannon with it seems a strange choice - usually reckon on having steak with chips or sauted potatoes or even jacket potatoes rather than mashed ones. Chicken sounds nice - sea bass doesn't but that's because I really don't like any fish so I'm biased on that one!

Crumble and custard is another one that I wouldn't eat - I think that it's a real marmite choice - people who like it (my mother and sister!) think it's wonderful and a basic that everybody eats regularly and that it's a safe choice to do for a pudding. And every single time I go to their house they make it as a treat for me and we have the same discussion about how I have never liked it and that obviously I'm wrong as everybody likes it and why else would they always make it... So as you can imagine I just have to see apple crumble on a menu to get my hackles raised!

OP have you thought about using your wedding cake as desert? I had a chocolate cake as my wedding cake as neither dh or I like fruit cake and I couldn't bear the waste of buying a wedding cake that 1) was mine and I didn't want to eat and 2) you see so many people cutting it up to have a slice with a cup of tea when they really don't want it later on in the afternoon, loads gets left, people grumble because it's too dry or too moist or too many nuts or not enough and so on. We cut our cake after the main course, then used it as the basis for pudding with chocolate sauce, raspberries, cream and ice cream (and people could have any combination of those things that they wanted, which covered lots of different variants of need). The cake was rich and delicious, worked really well as a pudding, there was some left for cutting at later if people did want some to eat later on and it meant we didn't have the extra expense of a separate cake which was an added bonus.

But it sounds like you are thinking it through carefully for you and your guests - so as long as you're doing that and you think that you'll all be happy then go for it!

I'd gladly have all of them.

My only question is there is there any vegetarians as some veggies don't eat fish.

Otherwise sounds lovely :)

No veggies eat fish! That's not vegetarianism.

Double up your Yorkshire pud canapes. You only need one person like me to go nuts with those and they'll be finished in no time. You can ignore my username for now

Fantastic menu, best wishes for a great day.

Lovely menu OP, and to be frank I'd not be putting too much effort into keeping everyone happy because the reality is - you'll never be able to.

You're being gracious enough to try and provide a lovely/ suitable meal for your guests whilst taking multiple requirements into account and they should be gracious enough to realise that whilst eating up and enjoying what they can.

Sounds fabulous. I'd eat everything on that menu and go back for seconds.

Enjoy your big day OP

Some have mentioned dessert,
Am apple crumble done well is the best. Please don't change a thing, I'd be amazed if I was served this menu. The last one I went to was a typical Christmas dinner, ,, in july