My niece is planning to get married this year. Only know this as she mentioned it in a letter to my DM, and DM told me. Date was given.
Since then, a couple of months, no further contact, mention or invite.
Background:
My DM is getting elderly, not frail, but not as nippy on her pins as she used to be, gets tired more quickly than she used to, and her hearing and eyesight are going a bit. I encouraged her to move closer to me a few years ago, so it's easier for me to keep an eye on her, take her to medical appointments, do the heavy shopping, do stuff round the house etc.
Now my DS has been given details for a youth group weekend, the same dates. I would need to go as an adult helper. I need to book and pay non-refundable fee this week.
So, do I book it, as we haven't received an invitation, and might not anyway, or
leave the weekend free in case I'm asked to be my mother's driver? The presumption would be that I would take her to wherever needed. Public transport would be several trains, then bus/taxi - at least 4 hours.
I don't have any contact details for DN, DM just has an address, and it seems a bit rude to ask if we're/she's going to get an invite.
DN's family live several hundred miles away. I think there will be a presumption that I will take her to the wedding, whether I am invited or not.