I'm having an issue. I'm maid of honour for my best friend's wedding, we've been friends for about 8/9 years and I've looked forward to this for a long time! There are 4 other bridesmaids who all live locally to my friend, and she has known them for about 4 years, one is the groom's sister, 2 are good friends of hers and then there's another one who she is not hugely close to but she was sort of a given as a bridesmaid due to how she knows them as a group.
They got engaged last winter, and the wedding is this December. I've been trying SO hard to get on with the other girls and 3 of them aren't a problem (though one can be quite bristley). It's the girl who is not as close to the bride who I'm struggling with. Less than a week after the engagement she had already started a group for the bridesmaids to all chat to each other about the hen party etc, basically the whole hen party is stuff that she has chosen and she's pipped me to the post pretty much every time there's been something to do or organise.
I've had to veto quite a few things that the bride would hate and although I've tried to be positive about everyone's ideas, I know I can come across as abrupt and a few months ago I apologised for this and admitted I had been feeling jealous that they were all local to the bride (I live a few hours away) and that I was missing out on loads of wedding stuff which they were getting to be a part of. That seemed to clear the air but it's all got ridiculous again.
In the meantime I've been called up on in front of all the hens for being the last to pay an instalment (despite the fact she'd been kept in the loop and it had only been a few days since the money was asked for), and most recently I suggested a recipie for something which I was told wouldn't be a good idea in case people are dairy intororent! The recipe already calls for cheese so it's completely illogical. I'm pretty much at the end of my tether- I don't really eant anything to do with it anymore it's just been stress after stress and it's all this one girl.
She wants to micromanage and plan every second of the weekend and insists on behaving and talking to everyone like a child; there's lots of talk of going 'beddy bies', calling people childish pet names that end in 'poo' and I could get past that- it's how she is but I just want to have a hand in organising my best friend's hen party, as her maid of honour! She even had the audacity to 'remind' me that 'it's all about what 'bride' wants' as if I didn't know.
The bride went on holiday with them in a group a couple of weeks ago and told me how over organised it was and she just wanted chill time, and I'm really trying to factor that in for the hen party weeken. She works really hard and massively appreciates time to just kick back and this girls seems to want to fill every second of the day- I can't keep saying no, I sound like a cow enough as it is. I'm fully aware I've been pissing people off but I don't know what else to do!
Sorry, probably more of a rant than anything else but I'm hating pretty much this whole experience and it's such a shame.