Here's the thing. DP's family are ultra conservative, and i am most definitely not. I was raised to be a hippy child, so much so, that until recently I had never considered getting married. I have done in the last few months what a lot of girls do throughout their teens - imagine dresses, plan locations, think about bridal parties etcetc. At first I was a bit taken aback by the necessity of marriage (many in my family in very long term relationships for life, no need to marry) but it is important to DP and I love him, so that's alright.
I'm a bit worried about incorporating religion into the wedding though. For them, it's about a couple and their relationship with God. I can just about accept that if I filter it through my wicca and buddhist lenses, but not sure if I'm allowed to have a non-trad wedding. I was thinking on a beach, in God's own creation so to speak. I would also like to prepare all the food with my friends and any other members of our families that wished to participate - a giant pot luck if you will. (Myself and many of my friends all work in restaurants chefs/waitresses etc so that is not as unachievable as some might think!) But that is quite unusual too. But if this is a family affair I would like to do more than just stand in front of them and declare our love, I like the idea of everyone creating a feast and enjoying it together after.
Last year, another of his siblings got married and it was full formal in a church and everything, and she had recently found religion... I am not going to be that girl. At the same time, I would like to respect them, they have made me very welcome and they had no obligation to do so.
Anyway, long story short... What would you do?