My Best Friends Wedding

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Hi everyone -
My best friend is getting married in a couple of months, and sadly i'm not able to go. I'd like to do something special for her on the day from me, (or just before) but i'm kind of stumped with what to do... As brides to be, what would you love your best mate to send/give/do to celebrate? We're both gutted I can't be there, and I want to try and make it up to her somehow.

Any suggestions/ideas would be very welcome!

oh and I live halfway around the world from her so it has to be something from afar! :)

If she is the kind of person that would like it, and if they have the equipment available, you could record yourself doing a very short video giving a speech about how happy you are for her, what an amazing couple they are, how much it pains you not to be part of their special day, and wishing them all the best.

You could organise with her maid of honour, or one of her parents (if you know them) for it to be played as a surprise at the end of the speeches.

You could also try and make it a bit more fun by working out what the theme of the wedding is, what sort of colours she is having, and then incorporating them into the video. It would be quite fun if you got dressed up as if you were actually at the wedding, and did the speech as if you were a guest at the table (so have a tablecloth, cuterly laid out, a bunch of flowers in whatever her colours are on the table, etc). Then you can toast them with a glass of champagne at the end of the speech.

Just be sure to make it short as obviously the guests will not want to sit through another long arse speech! Also remember not to tread on the toes of the other speech givers if her maid of honour is doing a speech. Don't go into any childhood anecdotes, or amusing stories about the bride. That's not your job and you don't want to cause ill feeling.

Is there any way you can be there virtually for a few minutes (or longer)?

If you could and you have some tech-able friends, you could skype/etc in to the ceremony or for the speeches - if somebody could take an ipad or laptop or similar, then so long as there was some connection to the internet (via guest's phones, portable hot spots, mi-fi etc) then it you could at least appear and say hi, maybe give a speech or listen in.

Not the same as being there, but would be a great alternative in the circumstances!

Thanks for the suggestions! I had thought of something similar, but was worried about treading on toes, you've inspired me to get in touch with her sister and ask :) I thought i'd write a letter and small gift for her to open on the morning too.
Thanks again :)

Arrange for a bottle of chilled champagne to be In their hotel room too

You sound amazing.

I'm currently devastated that my friend who emigrated to auz won't be coming back to be my bridesmaid this year. I heard this morning.