I've been planning my wedding periodically for the past 15 years. It always stresses me out so I give up.
I have a big family, only two siblings but lots of aunts, uncles, cousins. DP has one estranged brother and his elderly mum and not one single friend. This is usually the sticking point as DP gets embarrassed at the size of his 'side' - basically his mum.
We have three DDs between us, all young adults.
My latest plan which I really want to go through with this time is this;
My birthday is Dec, so in 2015, I'm going to have a 'party' at my house. Invite our kids + boyfriends, my Dsis+partner, my DB+partner+nephew , my mum and dad and his mum. So 14 guests.
When they arrive I'm going to do 'ha ha' its our wedding really, bus will be here in 30 mins and we're all going to the town hall. Gift of confetti and flowery brooch thing for everyone and off we pop. Minbus will decorate and charge 75 for single journey.
Our Town Hall is very beautiful and on the same road (2 min walk for elderly ma) is a lovely small real ale type bistro (gets 5 stars on TA) with 3 courses for 21 PP. they have a private dining room which seats 16 maximum (a sign?). This is a small chain which DSD works for so we'll also get 25% off!
we have meal, little speech, gifts for DDs,flowers for mums then thank everyone for coming. The end.
CONCERNS
Is the 'surprise' bit a bit naff? If I dont surprise I'll have opinions and stresses I CBA with. DD's will want extravagant outfits, mum will try to make it bigger and bigger, sis will want a big hen do. They'll all want to know what to get me and I dont want anything and so on and so forth.
DP would have to collect his DM who is 60 miles away. Is it ok if we send her home in a taxi? (costed at 80, we'll pay). She gets confused easily nowadays and this feels a bit mean. Is it?
As this is 'just' a party - I'm worried some might decline (after accepting - thinking DB's gfriend)
Will ladies feel a bit PO that they are underdressed for wedding. Particularly our mums who wont get to wear a hat! I will definitely be wearing a veil.
Anything else I havent even considered?
sorry for long post :)
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SofaSpud · 20/11/2014 15:56
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