Help- I'm having a wedding dress dilema

[Littlebigcat]

I saw 3 dresses I liked yesterday, 2 of which were in the same shop and the lady very kindly has said she would order both in my size (one of them I couldn't try on as the only one they had was 4 sizes too small) and keep the one I don't pick as stock.

I love both but have some reservations. One of them I would probably need to find backless shapewear that needs to be compatible with my 34GG boobs and seeing as I haven't tried it on might look awful anyway. The other looks fantastic even in a slightly too small size. It's corseted and gives me a great hourglass figure. I'm a bit worried about feeling uncomfortable though.

In the back of my mind is dress 3. Way more expensive but looked lovely and was just floaty with a waterfall detail/v neck that was quite slimming. I know it would be comfortable but hasn't got the wow factor the corset one has.

Do I prioritise wow factor over comfort. Are corseted wedding dresses that actually fit you quite comfortable? And does anyone have any ideas about shapewear for the dress I haven't tried on?

I think this is a question which will be personal to you.

Here it sounds like you need to decide what is more important to you:

*Price

• Wow factor
• Comfort.

That's going to be different for everyone. I went for price and comfort over wow factor, but then again all the big or super fancy dresses felt very ostentatious to me. Maybe that's not the case for you.

Did you take pictures of yourself in the dresses? It's definitely worth getting pictures and looking at them again and again. I had actually decided on a dress (it was between 3), but when I went through the photos, I realised that actually I loved another one more. It's definitely worth doing.

That said, think carefully about a few issues:

• Backless shapewear - it's definitely possible to get backless shapewear, but would you be looking for support as well? If you have a substantial chest, then being sufficiently supported is not really optional. Many backless shapewear options simply can't offer any decent support, due to the very nature of their shape. That said, you could discuss with the shop whether they would be able to have support sewn into the dress. Again though, if the dress is backless, then it might not be enough.

• For the corseted one, what makes you think that you would be uncomfortable? Don't forget that ANYTHING that pulls you in is going to be uncomfortable to a degree, which includes shapewear.

I went for wow factor wedding coordinator said it was the heaviest dress she had felt happy to upload a pic of you want. It was corseted and I have 32 J breasts I was able to go bra less as corset was tight and it looked fabulous. It wasn't that uncomfy main problems were peeing needed two people to help me and eating.

But if it's a corset back make sure whoever will be doing you up has a few practise runs as my mum was unable to do it on the day.

Luckily my mil owns a wedding dress shop ( which is who bought the dress out of stock) and had arrived early to do me up.

mine was corsetted and really comfy. I went braless, and my 30G boobs were totally secure. I wasn't worried about what I ate leading up to the wedding as the corset just ties to fit, and danced freely without fear of exposure!!

def try the right sizes on before you make a decision - you may be pleasantly surprised!!

Make sure you try sitting down in a corsetted dress before buying it - you don't want it pushing your boobs right up to your chin when you sit down!

I like the photos idea.

Now what do you mean by corseted is the question!

Do you mean it has a lace up back OR do you mean it has steel bones BIG DIFFERENCE!

A full steel boned corset ( I wear one often - not a fashion thing to me its a pain thing) and yes I do lace down (judge me if you want) is a comfortable garment if

1. probably sized both in terms of key widths and length.
2. The bones are properly situated for your hip bones, waist and rib cage
3. You stand PROPERLY tail bone tucked under etc. If not then it is an item of torture!

properly laced in you SHOULD be able to take a DEEP breath and full your lungs and it really shouldn´t feel uncomfortable they feel tight but not uncomfortable think of a bear hug sort of thing.

A corseted back dress is different and shouldn´t feel uncomfortable at all.

Key things - beware back rolls, corsets and corseted backs can sort of move your skin UP (and DOWN) this can create the illusion of back fat. Look for something that comes up to your wing bones that will help OR as your shop / dress maker to remove one of two loops at the TOP of the dress and create a subtle V. (IF this turns out to be a problem for you)

Backless dress. Shape wear is GOOD its NOT magic (no matter what it says!) but do you actually NEED backless shape wear? eg there are some options with see through backs these work really well under lace etc.

I have something like this I would call it LOW backed and it does give good support (I have the same size boobs as you).

Congratulations on the wedding. Go with what makes you feel fantastic there is nearly always a gut reaction.

Thank you all for the responses.

I got the chance to try on the one I hadn't been able to earlier in the week and it was nice but didn't make me feel amazing and to be honest I can't see any underwear sorting both tummy and hips out, putting my boobs where they need to and working with the lace back. I tried on the other one again too and feeling much, much better about it, especially keeping all you comments in mind. I can imagine it will look and feel better when it properly fits me as well. It's A line so should be ok moving around.

It's this one incase anyone's interested, with the sleeve/straps, corset back

www.maggiesottero.com/dress.aspx?style=13533

Do you think I'd need to wear heels? I would prefer to wear flats but do I need heels for my posture in a dress like this or am I being silly thinking this?

Beautiful dress. With shoes just wear what you feel comfortable in-that will mean your posture is natural to you and you don't feel weird all day