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To veil or not to veil???

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FPaul · 20/06/2013 00:43

I've always claimed that I will not wear a veil when I get married and felt uncomfortable when I tried one on. However my mum is trying to persuade me to wear one. Have any of you got/ or are planning to get married without one? What are your views please???

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MardyBra · 20/06/2013 00:44

If you are uncomfortable and have never wanted one, then surely that is your answer.

I had one fwiw, but that was back in the last century.

Snazzywaitingforsummer · 20/06/2013 00:47

I had one but lots of brides don't now, so don't have something you don't like! You can have a tiara type thing, flowers in your hair, or just nothing. How long is your hair and do you think you would wear it down or up, if it's long(ish)?

Startail · 20/06/2013 02:04

DH ended up wearing mine, non at the last two weddings I went to.

prissyenglisharriviste · 20/06/2013 02:19

I am rolling at 'back in the last century'.

Sorry, I know that's not helpful. Your choice. Entirely. Wear one, or not, doesn't matter a jot either way, and have never even heard it discussed before.

I wore one - it suited the frock. It was massive and a six foot train (the veil - not the dress lol, that was very straightforward with not so much as a frill and straight up and down) it was fricking freezing, and at one point all of the bridesmaids were huddled underneath the veil to keep the wind off.

That was back in the last century, too. but I do love that whole lifting the veil moment. It makes me laugh - as if you don't know who's under it...

courgetteDOTcom · 20/06/2013 02:57

I didn't either time. I had one for a hen party and hated it! I have long hair and had it done extra nice.

jessjessjess · 20/06/2013 03:31

Try one with your dress and see how you feel - I ended up finding it was just right for me and I'm glad I did. You don't know until you try.

I didn't wear it over my face though.

FamiliesShareGerms · 20/06/2013 04:30

Same as jessjess - my dress looked "finished" with a veil, but I didn't put it over my face.

I got the blush (fancy name for the bit that goes over your face!) made extra long so that it didn't obscure the detail on the back of my dress

Snazzywaitingforsummer · 20/06/2013 08:02

I didn't put mine over my face either.

Sunnymeg · 21/06/2013 13:24

I believe traditionally that wearing the veil denotes submission to your husband. I never wore one, when I got married back in the last century, but all my friends did.

yellowsnownoteatwillyou · 21/06/2013 13:30

I never wore one, tried one on, felt stupid and it wouldn't have gone with my dress.

Some people want one, some feel the look is unfinished without one. Do what you want.

My hairdresser hates veils as they can mess up your hair. Something to think about depending on the style you are getting.

MissPlumBroughtALadder · 21/06/2013 13:36

Do you realise what the represents???? It signifies the hymen and is a symbol of virginity. That is why the tradition is that your father walks you down the aisle (given that, as prized virgin, you are still his possession at that point) and hands you over to your husband (your new owner) and then your father draws the veil back from your face, symbolising that he is handing over your virginity.
If you are 'comfortable' to wear a veil knowing this then go for it.
Vomit.

NotMeActualName · 21/06/2013 13:38

If you don't want a veil then don't have one. No harm trying them to see if you actually like it 'in the flesh'

Asteria · 21/06/2013 14:55

I was massively against it (he is divorced and I have a 10 year old born out of wedlock - the horror) but then I had to wear one for my hen and suddenly changed my mind. I looked at birdcage veils as they are pretty and a bit less traditional, but am now going to (wedding is next weekend) wear an ancient heavy lace family veil. If the lace one didn't exist I might be less inclined to bother though.
Bet you found that really helpful

AnythingNotEverything · 21/06/2013 15:11

I didn't have one when I got married last year, but mainly because my dress didn't need one and it seemed a frightful amount of money to spend!

If you don't want one, don't wear one. You can't please everyone all of the time.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 23/06/2013 19:26

I tried one and actually felt ill looking at myself in the mirror, it was so not me, I hate the traditions it implies. It was absolutely beautiful as well. If you feel it is not for you then don't let yourself be talked into it.

K8Middleton · 23/06/2013 19:33

God no. I didn't wear one. I had an amazing white dress but no silly train and no veil.

Rootvegetables · 23/06/2013 19:36

I just tried my dress on all finished and thought I wouldn't bother but the assistant gave me one to try and it just looked right, it's not going over my face though. If you just don't want one that seems fair! I was undecided, I've ordered 2 from light in the box, so cheap, I'm going to decide nearer the time.

eurozammo · 23/06/2013 19:40

I was the same. I'd never wanted one. The women in the wedding dress shop all said I would want once once I was in my dress. I didn't.

I'm not keen on the symbolism and I wanted to look like me on my wedding day. In a veil I would have felt like I was in fancy dress.

scissy · 27/06/2013 16:24

I didn't, but I hate covering my face.

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