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Bridesmaids

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CamelBalls · 25/05/2013 17:26

My wonderful friend is getting married just after Christmas and I'm so flattered that she asked me to be bridesmaid :)

I havnt been shopping with her as of yet as our diary's havnt matched up but we are going next month.

I don't mind wearing dress's at all (infact I love when I do) but I have ance from teenage spots on my back which I hate. I have been to the doctors about it and I'm on tablets and cream (which is a bugger to apply on t back myself!) but I can't see any noticeable difference - I have even resorted to a couple of sun beds as hate it so much and I know the sun helps clear any spots up in the past.

Do you think it would be ok if I could ask her if I could wear a wrap/shrug type thing and explain why?

I totally understand that it's her day but the idea of me walking down the isle and everyone can see my back is rather daunting and I wanted to ask some brides to me if being fair or not?

I would pay for it too if she agrees but just wondering how many of you would let your bridesmaids wear something like this or not if it doesn't fit into your ideal wedding....

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LizaTarbucksAuntie · 25/05/2013 17:32

I'd totally speak to her about it.

If you deal with it now and explain you'll feel self conscious hopefully she'll be a lovely friend and be happy to accommodate you.

If she doesn't understand then she might be one of 'those' brides...

Good luck

ZZZenagain · 25/05/2013 17:35

if the dress doesn't have a low back you'll be fine.How bad is it IYO, would concealer do it if someone applied it to your back?

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OliviaMMumsnet · 25/05/2013 17:39

Could you wear your hair down to cover?

fastyspeedyfast · 25/05/2013 17:42

Her first concern should be that her friends and bridesmaids are happy and confident on the day. If her first concern is that you all be matchy-matchy even at your expense, then you've got a bridezilla on your hands. Beware!

JoyceDivision · 25/05/2013 17:43

Has your friend specified what sort of dress she wants you to wear?

If she's a good friend she surely won't mind you putting a request in!

I askedto havedresses with 'proper'straps due to my huge norks and my friend was fine with that. I then picked a strapless coast dress

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CamelBalls · 26/05/2013 16:44

Yes, I have asked for for a dress with straps (big boobs) but I don't think that's going to happen as she has found dress's which are supposed to be supportive no matter how big your boobs are - I'm not so sure!

The dress won't be so low but I'm guessing it will be where your back bra strap would be.

Hair is being up unfort - and I have tried myself (going to doctors for cream/medication) but hasn't helped really.

I'm sure she won't be a bride from hell! (Hopefully!!)
Thank you - I will ask her in person when I next see her - wish me luck! X

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JoyceDivision · 26/05/2013 18:33

I have 40F hooters, and that newish wonderbra that is supposed to be like a pair of supportive hands, according to the blurb, is bloody marevellous.

I did not think it would work but it kept my boobs up all day, go to debenhams with20% off and try one on, get thenude then it will go under any colour.

If you are close to her, when you at her house or out shopping, zip in a changing room and show her your back, your mate should unedrstyand rather than you thiunking she might be a bit blase about your request.

Good luck!

LemonBreeland · 26/05/2013 18:39

I feel your pain, I had that in my early twenties. The sun definitely helped it though, so maybe a few sunbeds before the wedding.

Mine was fixed by having dc1, must hsve sorted my hormones out. Bit drastic though

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CamelBalls · 26/05/2013 19:29

I tried on my newish bra 34 GG (brought it awhile ago and it did fit then) and put it on this week and my boobs go over the top :(

The doct

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CamelBalls · 26/05/2013 19:30

Posted to soon!

The doctor said of the record I could try sunbeds but he can't officially say so....and yes having a baby to sort out my skin may be a tad bit over the top!!!!

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karinmaria · 26/05/2013 19:59

Please do have a chat with your friend! She'll want you to be comfortable.

My bridesmaid was my sister and was super easy to dress but also has problems with acne and I wouldn't have dreamt of making her wear a strapless backless number with her hair up!

As for my married friends, the only bridesmaids who really annoyed the bride about their dresses were the ones who kept quiet. My lovely friend had spent months finding dresses to fit a variety of shapes, sizes and colourings only to discover two weeks (TWO weeks!!) that no one had bothered to try on the dresses (even though they had told her they had and that they were fine) and didn't fit three of the five bridesmaids. That was a fun mess to sort out... So please speak to your friend before you shop together. She'll understand

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CamelBalls · 05/06/2013 10:49

So spoke to bride to be - who told me not to be so silly, as she chose me for me not on what my back looks like

She made me feel alot better :) also said we will go bridesmaid shopping end of June so am very excited now :)

Thanks for all your help!

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LemonBreeland · 05/06/2013 11:56

What a nice update. I'm glad your friend is not a bridezilla and will help you feel comfortable.

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