My partner and I have been together 10 years and have 2 kids. We have decided to get married and both wanted a relatively small wedding at a lovely venue. We have booked the venue for next spring and are happy with our plans. However a few friends and family have commented on various things. I would love a few honest opinions of our plans.
We are only having 40 guests, my side consists of mainly close family and a few friends dp is having mostly friends and just a few relatives (parents, siblings and grandparents).
The wedding ceremony is late afternoon followed by the wedding breakfast then the evening reception with a buffet. The ceremony is in one room with the meal and evening reception in another room with an adjoining private bar. We are providing our own music using our iPad, there is no disco. We do not want to do speeches (if the best man wants to do a speech that's fine bit that's it). We will not have a first dance as we don't want to and can't anyway as the room we have booked has no dance floor.
Instead of favours I was going to place vintage bon bon dishes on the tables filled with retro sweets (flying saucers, jelly babies, dolly mixtures etc) then after the cake has been cut all the guests will get some in a cake box to take home, the rest is being served with coffee at some point.
The comments we've had are regards the fact we are not inviting all our extended families, the not having a disco in the evening, not doing "proper" favours and no speeches or first dance. I would like opinions as to if people would find it strange attending a wedding like this?