I think I'm having my first Bridezilla moment...

[ButternutSquish]

I understand that OUR wedding isn't really that special an event for anyone outside our immediate family, but I'm just a little bit disappointed by the sloooooow response to our invitations.

They went out nearly 2 weeks ago so everyone should have had them at least 10 days ago, and hardly anyone has replied. In a fast paced world where FB & Twitter rule is it really that hard to send a quick text saying 'oooh, got your invite, will reply soon' or 'how exciting, am coming and will send you a proper rsvp soon'.

I know it's all a bit Bridezilla but some of these people have been friends for over 30 years and I sort of expected a little bit more excitement or enthusiasm.

Sat here now expecting to be shot down in flames MN-stylee

It is hard when you must be sooo excited and other people aren't obviously joining in and sharing it. I bet all your guests are really excited and are just disorganised in getting RSVP cards and a stamp and going to a post box....

Maybe you'd best discretely check that they have been received - I sent party invitations recently and discovered after a while that I had underpaid the postage by 5p and everyone was having to collect them from the sorting office (and be charged a £1 for the priviledge

Did everyone already know you were going to get married?

If so, YABU.

If not, then actually I think you do have a right to feel a bit disappointed. If that was the first they'd heard of it, then you'd think they'd show a bit more excitement.

GleamingHeels...yes, I it's like that I'm sure. I'm just thinking of how I'd react. There are a couple of people who I expect to be super excited and others who will be a bit 'meh' about it

And FastidiaBlueberry...this isn't the AIBU section. I'm well aware that I'm being a bit unreasonable...hence the topic name

Honestly? Nobody cares. That might be the biggest lesson you need to learn about your wedding.

It's the biggest deal in the world to you, but not to everyone else. When I get a wedding invitation it doesn't occur to me to send a pre-response response. I put it to one side and reply when I have time, within the time limit set (if there is one on the invitation).

I don't think I've ever received a wedding invitation where the couple didn't already know that I was coming or not.

In fact, I was dead chuffed to get one from my friend when she knew I definitely wouldn't be able to come as she lives in the US and I was due 3 weeks before her wedding...

Did you provide stamped envelopes? That's a key thing for getting replies at all early.

In fact, now I think about it, we emailed everyone to get them to save the date (it was 4 months later), rang various people individually (if they lived abroad), spoke face to face to others and finally sent the invitations as a pure formality with the date and time (we found out the time of the ceremony quite late) plus address for the reception. We didn't ask for formal RSVP. (but it was a small wedding - only 30 people in total)

Have you already spoken about the wedding to most people? Might be why you're not getting written RSVPs.

You will get a fair few written RSVPs from the old school. But not when you didn't even send the invitations 2 weeks ago. I sent mine in the middle of October, with a 'please RSVP by' date of 1st December. I've had about 10 written RSVPs.

Honestly, your wedding is not, and will never be, anyone's priority but yours.

TobyLerone...yes, I get it, I'm being a Bridezilla, but is there any real need to push it quite so forcefully down my throat. I have admitted I'm being a little 'precious' about the wedding, and I would hope that at least SOME of the 100 people invited cares! Otherwise why would I invite them. Maybe you are projecting the way YOU feel about how much people care about you!

Is it one of those shindigs in the middle of nowhere where guests are expected to shell out bucketloads to stay overnight, but only invited to the 'evening do', or with a demand for cash 'gifts' included? If so, that may be why you haven't had many responses.

Nope.

Congratulations on setting a date. It's a lovely festive time of year but amidst office parties, people working to deadlines, end of year family breaks and end of term, your guests are probably glad to receive an invitation but may wait for the 'right moment' to respond. Perhaps they need to check dates. They may have written back but post is slow at this time of year. I am sure they'll make all the right noises but that could be post Christmas so steel yourself!