Black bridesmaid's dresses? Yay or nay

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I'm already imagining the pearly clutchy - "what are you doing!?" response from my mother. But, would like to get a general view. The "wedding colours" I suppose are kind of coming out as cream, white and black and my likely bridesmaids (I need to ask them) are 1. not only not in the same country as me, they're on a different continent and 2. don't even live in the same city, on that continent. So going out dress shopping with them is kind of not happening unless MN does a whip around to send me out.

So, I was thinking - ask them to just get "LBDs" that they like and have that as their BM dresses?

What about a dark colour - brown, silver, blue... Black seems a bit... Actually, it could be nice.

I don't know! Your mum will flip though!

Black would be lovely. Tell your mum you are being practical

Good suggestions. I was thinking dark colour, like dark blue but then if I got them to get them they might be in not matching-y shades? Will keep on thinking and thanks for the feedback. Saying something is "practical" may get my Mom on board. She's uber practical.

tell your mother that it's a goth-themed wedding and when they turn out to be rather tasteful LBDs she'll think they're the Best Thing Ever

I wish I'd been your bridesmaid. They'll love you for it.

I think it would be lovely but I am one to go against the traditional in some ways.

You could add matching accessories to bring the look together if they have different dresses (eg. necklaces, shoes, shrugs/pashminas etc) or, like someone else said go for dresses from somewhere like Monsoon and get them altered if needed.

And if you do go for it ignore any cats bum faces from your Mum or from others of that generation. Its your day, you have whatever you want

It's a yay from me too.

I wore black as a bridesmaid and it looked fabulous...
We had a corset top and longish A line skirt from Coast in black satin, accessorised with red pashmina and red flowers.
Best of all I've reused the corset top loads of times with jeans!

I think it can look beautiful....much classier than some paler pastely colours (in my opinion anyways).

"tell your mother that it's a goth-themed wedding and when they turn out to be rather tasteful LBDs she'll think they're the Best Thing Ever"

GENIUS. I just need to endure five months of complaining about it, but sooooooooo worth it.

One of the nicest weddings i've ever been to had a black and white theme - the bride wore white but with black details and the bridesmaids were in 'negative' - they looked wonderful. The table decorations, flowers, balloons etc. were also black and white.

they didn't go as far as to insist the guests did the same as i have read on here before now

Also tell your mother there's no way she can clash with them if they are in black...

Don't like idea of black. Looks rubbish in daylight and a bit trendy too so will date.

Dark blue though is lovely, but like you say you would have to colour match carefully.

My daughter wore black as a bridesmaid 3 years ago. At the time I thought it was quite different and stylish. Last year she wore lilac as a bridesmaid and I have to say as a whole the wedding looked much prettier and more romantic and just had a better overall look.

Or, with the monsoon suggestion, I may have found Their Dresses Hm

Then there's a gap of a few hours between ceremony and the reception, so they can wear this for the ceremony (religious, so they can't have boobs flapping about and I was concerned about that) and then change into whatever they want for the reception!

I would be ecstatic if someone had bought me that dress to be a bridesmaid - it looks very forgiving too.

The only time i was a bridesmaid i wore gold - gold gold not even bronzy gold and was 7 months pregnant at the time. It was like the michellin man and C3PO had mated...

Depending on where they are you could buy material and send it to them to have the dresses made up.

I went to a wedding with a maid of honour, age 30ish, in a suit (think fifties style pencil skirt and fitted jacket) a bridesmaid, mid teens in a brides maid dress and a flower girl aged about 2. Although the outfits were totally different they were all in the same material and looked fantastic.