Hi all,
I'm not sure this is the right site for this but you all have more experience than I at these things. I have been compelled to write my first post after some news I had yesterday and would really appreciate some advice from people that are totally disconnected from our situation. Maybe you will help me to see things more clearly!
Please bear with me I've been up until 5am this morning with all these questions going around in my mind.
I am getting married in August 200 miles away from where I live. My sister and I are very close and she kind of has links to the local wedding industry and due to the fact that she brilliantly arranged her own wedding from scratch 3 years ago was going to play a major role in helping me with mine. She's was basically keeping an eye on all things local that I couldn't get to. Bless! She was even making our cake!
For the past year her husband and her have been trying for a baby, after no success they were starting the hospital tests route and were going to stop trying for a few months so it wouldn't clash with out wedding.
Phone call yesterday, too late.........She's pregnant! Fabulous news of course, I'm over joyed. Problem? It's due 1/2 weeks before our wedding.
She was so upset, I was telling her not to worry. She was saying it won't change anything saying "I will still be there as much as I would if I wasn't preggers."
Firstly I know that's true - she will try not to let it get in the way of anything but I can't see how it's possible - and do I really want here stressing herself like that?
Secondly - 1/2 weeks, that's pretty close - what's the bets that it happens on the day? How would I feel worrying for the next 9 months that that may happen? How would my parents feel torn between the birth of there first grandchild and their other daughters wedding day?
She's either going to be so heavily pregnant that she's not going to want want to move in the summer heat, or only just delivered her first child with all the scariness that involves.
Basically I'm thinking should we just take all of this out of the equation and move the date of the wedding. If I have it end of September, I won't have to think about any of that and she won't have to worry and can enjoy being pregnant.
I'm not an expert on these things, how do you feel a week or two before or after giving birth?
If we can rearrange without incurring any extra costs should we?
How did you all feel two weeks prior / after giving birth?