Wedding regrets?

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When I got married I was determined not to go overboard on unnecessary extras, such as casinos chocolate fountain over priced dresses etc.

It was going to be a nice party, with nice food, drink, and a DJ for a boogie at night. I was not bothered about having a flash wedding.

As I did not want to spend a fortune, I DiYed as much as possible, and do not regret any of my DiYs.

It was a fabulous wedding, even if I do say so myself.

I do regret thinking that I didn't care about photographer, rushing the decision, and plumping for the cheapest.

I tooks my money and pays my choice, and the photos were all disappointing. It's fine, it is the marriage that's important not the wedding, and after picking the best of the bunch for the wall, I did not dwell on it.

This afternoon I looked at a friends album, and OMG the photos are gorgeous. This photographer is over double the price of ours.

I do regret not taking longer to choose the photographer, seeing complete wedding albums, and spending more money.

Anybody else have any regrets?

Only that I wish I paid for some staff to look after the buffet in the evening. My family did way too much for us and I am forever grateful and feel very loved as a result. P.s photographer was cheap too but he was great

Having got it all wrong the first time, I got it mostly write the second time. My only regret is having a band - they were fab (The Bootleg Beegies) but they cost over a grand, and most of the time we were too busy doing family photos and catching up with people to really appreciate them. We did dance to three of their songs, they even learned "Wedding Day" especially for the occasion, but it worked out at a lot of money per song. We might as well have had just the DJ.

Oh well done thingsabeachanging, I'm sure a cheap photographer can be great, I just rushed the decision, as at the time I didn't care about good photos, it turned out I cared. DH is not bothered in the least.

Yes, we had all the family helping out too, although I think they all enjoyed being involved in the day.

I regret the fact that I look utterly wasted a bit merry in the later photos. Expensive photographer couldn't do much about that!

Oh our photographer left at a reasonable point in the eve. I do regret not confiscating everybody elses cameras on the way in
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Not really - it was the wedding we wanted with no fussy bits. 15 years on, I wish I'd made my mum have a better outfit, but thats about it !

We didn't do any research about photographers, DH didn't want one so we compromised and just used someone local who was very cheap just so I didn't have to rely on family getting some photos for us. I must admit I look at other people's albums and think 'ahhh that's nice' but it doesn't overly concern me even though sadly the photographer didn't really get the photos I asked him to. He really didn't have a clue if i'm honest and at one point I did wonder whether he had ever been to a wedding before but luckily he had a friend with him who gave him a bit of advice and I have some bossy friends who got him going after a while. Unfortunately you get what you pay for with photographers, it's a very fickle difficult business which is why the good ones charge such a lot of money. Saying that I know some people who have paid a fortune and were very disappointed and i also know some people who adore their photos and I wasn't particularly taken by them, not that it's any of my business lol.

That said, a wedding is one day, the first day of the rest of your lives. The important thing is that you had a lovely day and that you get lots of lovely pictures and memories throughout the rest of your wonderful marriage. There were lots of things I could have done differently looking back but it is only one day, we had a great day, it really was lovely and that is all that matters to me. Don't dwell on it, life is too short :)

I only wish we had done the deed sooner, too many people weren't there who should have been.

Thank you Raspberry Tipple. I won't dwell on it. The wedding day was lovely.

It was just seeing a friends amazing album, and then coming home and comparing it to ours, I felt a bit cross with myself, for not having researched it and wish we'd stumped a bit more money for photographer.

I didn't want a fussy wedding, and am glad on the decisions. I never understand why you would get into debt for one day.

Its just I only realised I wanted a really good photographer after we'd booked and paid the deposit for our photographer.

I'm sure you had some lovely pics, at the end of the day give it 6 months and you probably won't be looking at them anyway, they'll be stored away in box and never come out. And I bet they are nicer pics than you think. We had a double whammy as we were only at a local bar for the reception so it wasn't photographic but it was right next to the river which is beautiful but sods law it rained - all day - so we had to make do with what we had.

Perhaps if you are really disappointed you could have some nice family photos done for your first anniversary and add those to the album? I am thinking of putting some money by so if we have a baby I can get some of me pregnant and newborn/family shots done professionally.

I regret not getting a professional video done. I got a friend with a good video camera to do our vid, but the footage is wobbly and not very well edited. Have seen a friend's wedding video and it's amazing. They look like filmstars, and it's so romantic and beautifully shot. All the details are there from the bride getting ready to the table decorations and there are some lovely personal moments too. There's so much I'd like to see on film of our day that just didn't come through. Shame :(