I have for the past few months been seriously thinking about proposing to my partner of 5 years.
We have a son together (who is 4) and have known each other for years, our relationship is a open 50-50 mix he does the washing up-I do the washing, he tidy's-I cook etc..... We have been though a lot together, homeless, job-loss & job gain, running a business, uni, depression, health up's & downs and it has made us stronger.
We have talked about marriage but as he got married young years ago and until about a year ago he had a very bad view of marriage which I totally understood as I saw first hand how things where for him before.
However a while ago, totally out of the blue he said he would like to marry me one day 
but he has no control of any of our money to buy a ring or take me out without me knowing.
I did offer to let him have some money control but it he does not deal with money well and it has not worked well in the past.
((he works full-time to provide for us and I work from home and run the house including all accounts as he hates dealing with money and this works well for us))
So I began to think why can't I ask him to marry me? I have found out his ring size and been looking at rings and found a lovely one but when I went to get it the lady said that women cant ask there partners unless it is a leap year but I cant ask him then as its his birthday that day.
We are not your traditional couple and after all who gets to do the asking is all just tradition.........but should I carry on with my plans to ask him to marry me? 