Should I wear high heels??

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I'm hoping for some opinions but not brave enough to post in AIBU. My H2B is exactly the same height as me, so whenever I wear heels I look taller than him. He has joked (once too many times so I know he means it) that i have to wear flat shoes on our wedding day so I don't look taller than him.

But I am wearing a tea length dress and flat shoes will just look crap. I am coveting some purple crystal encrusted shoes at the moment, and they are not too high, but I will still look taller than him.

Do I (a) wear gorgeous heels and try and slouch in photos or (b) wear flats and look a bit crap particularly as my bridesmaids have the most fab shoes.

At the moment I'm thinking its tough tittie if i am taller than him. But then I feel a bit guilty.

What would you do?

I will be keeping a close eye on this one as I have the same dilemma!

Personally I am erring towards wearing heels but keeping them at 2" max.

I had same issue and wore 1.5" kitten heels from LK Bennett which were really pretty. But I'm wider than dh too and didn't want to look any more disproportionate than we already do. If that makes sense. TBH I think you may regret slouching in the photos! Have fun though!

I think I'll have a look for smaller heels. I don't want him to be pissed off at me, I told him to get a Tom cruise wedge, but as he is wearing a kilt so people might notice!!

I'm planning on wearing 3" heels. I feel more confident and happier in heels, but DH does not seem to mind. It will make me about an inch taller, and I'm going for a flat hairstyle.

Don't slouch though.

that should read DH2B, I tend to describe him as DH on mumsnet, it is just easier.

wear what you want to wear, don't slouch, and if it bothers him you can have lots of photos taken with you sitting down.

lots of perfectly hot men are short. if he feels insecure about it that's his problem.

Same here! DP and I are exactly the same height. I feel funny about towering over him so I usually only wear kitten heels. I will probably do the same on the wedding day - about 1.5 inches max. And don't forget that all men's shoes have a little heel as well so it will probably even out. But I recognise this is my weird issue, not his - I've been to at least two wedding where the bride was taller than the groom and there was nothing weird about it.

(LOL he has investigated the type of shoes that Sarkozy wears to look less small next to Carla Bruni though!)

I wore flats when I got married last year (DH an inch taller than me) great for dancing but my gown was floor length. Have you considered changing shoes during your day, flats for formal photos, do not slouch fgs. Heels for later on although normally tis the other way round :)

Fuck it I'm wearing heels. He will be too busy admiring how wonderful I look to notice I am bigger than him. For photos we'll just get him a couple of yellow pages to stand on :)

wear the heels for sure!!