How would you feel if asked to step in as maid of Honour?

[LizaTarbucksAuntie]

So my best friend has had a series of events which mean she feels she just can't do justice to the role (long story and I'm not upset with her she's star and has been amazing)

Now I have just over 11 weeks and no maid of honour.

She was my head above shoulders choice, no back up plan, no other bridesmaids.

How would you feel if you were asked to step in? (clearly not you personally that would be a bit odd I don't even know your favourite chocolate...but if a close friend asked at the 11th hour?)

thanks

I'll be your bridesmaid but you'll have to come to Australia to get married! I wouldn't mind at all tbh. think i would like a little explaintion though

I personally would be honoured (terry's choc orange)

arf at both of you!

Pinkhebe, that just would never match the colour scheme.

I'm a bit glum, I love my friend and want to help out there but at the same time I feel v selfish for going oh bugger look how this affects me.....

Do you need a bridesmaid? Could your friend still be your confidant and support but not have a named role? TBH my sister was my bridesmaid, and it was nice for the photos, but she didn't actually DO anything

thank you - I've spoken to her and said I'm not going to replace her, for the very reasons you mentioned. We've already got her dresswhich is not traditionally bridesmaid-y as I wanted her to pick something she'd feel gorgeous in and wear again, so she'll still wear it. I coulnd't replace her, and I would feel really odd if I did try to, so she will still be there but jsut not feeling like she's 'supposed' to be doing anything except enjoying herself.

Why don't you upgrade another bridesmaid to the role of lady of the cloth so she has more responsibility. That would mean your MoH could continue but would have some help.

hehe whomoved - I was only having MOH :) I can't be doing with all that pleasing people with different dresses business :)

Hope you have a lovely day and congratulations

Well there is nothing to stop you enlisting a groomsman to be your PA you know. I made ours do loads of stuff because I had no bridesmaids.

arf! thanks - have you met my DP and mad Larping friends?

Chances are if I asked them to do anything it would end up covered in latex and hidden in the depths of the deepest dungeon for me to 'rescue' on the way to the wedding....

Well they'll be used to wearing frocks then

Bridesmaids are over-rated anyway.

You don't need bridesmaids if you don't want to ask someone else - we had a full on church wedding with no bridesmaids and no best man

If you do want someone, I'd explain that you only wanted one and asked friend 1 because [insert reason here], but now that they can't do it, you'd really like friend 2 to do it because [insert reason here]. if I was friend 2 I'd be happy to step in, but it would be nice to be chosen for a good reason (i.e. not because I'd fit the dress and you want the dress in the photos!)

Not such a pivotal role, but I asked a friend to read at my wedding because my SIL backed out with three days to go. I picked someone close to me who I knew was happy with public speaking and explained about SIL. Friend was happy to be asked.