Flower girls

[raspberrytipple]

We are having a small ish wedding in august this year, registry office followed by an evening party at a local bar. I'm not having bridesmaids as, being only a 20 minute no frills ceremony I just didn't feel right having people trailing around after me, especially not at the extra expense! I'm just a bit worried as my brother and a cousin both have girls under 5 that they may 'expect' to have to be flower girls. Trouble is, if I make them a flower girl what could they do on the day, there's no walking down the isle business and it seems a bit weird to make them dress up then not give them anything to do? Any thoughts?

My DD (2.5) is a flower girl in September and as far as I know she'll be dressed up and that's pretty much it. It's a civil ceremony so not much walking down the aisle afaik. I'm pretty sure she'll love it though, she saw the dress online and got very excited, plus she loves having her photo taken

I had 4 little bridesmaids/flower girls when I got married (lots of little girls in the family) and didn't expect them to do anything. They looked adorable and seemed to have huge fun charging around everywhere and giggling :)

If you're not having any bridesmaids and it's a small wedding, I wouldn't have thought anyone would expect you to have flower girls. I don't think you have to if you're not comfortable with it.

I'm having my niece who is three as a flower girl. Choosing her dress has been my favourite part of my wedding plans , I have two DS's. We're having a registry office do too so no aisle and certainly no veil!!! I will give her a little bunch of flowers to hold and that's about it. She's very excited and I'm hoping she will remember it when she grows up. I never got to be a bridesmaid and always wanted to be. Actually almost gave up hope of ever being a bride either!

Melody - that's why I had so many little girls for my flower girls. I was a bridesmaid quite a lot when I was little and loved it. My sister never got asked (not quite as bad as it sounds, she was a lot older than me so no-one picked me over her as it were) and always wanted to be. Ofc she was my bridesmaid when I got married but I asked all the little girls who were going to be there. My mum made their dresses so it wasn't very expensive and the girls had a lot of fun so hopefully they will remember it.

Your wedding sounds lovely :)

That's not so bad then, I think I'm going to ask my niece, will be nice for her :) I just felt a bit odd because I wasnt sure what they were meant to do other than walk in front of the bride down the isle but if all she has to do is look cute then she'll nail it!!

How are your plans coming along melody? Mine feel nicely under control actually, sometimes I have a little freak out then calm myself down and it's all ok again!

A flower girl is just a young bridesmaid on the whole. And most little girls just love it as a chance to get dressed up in a pretty dress and hold some flowers, and feel a bit special for the day. They don't really need a role as such. They could follow you out of the venue after you are marrie, or maybe carry a cushion with the rings in. Or just be there dressed up all special for a day :)

raspberry - currently having a minor freak out because my mum may not come. Nothing terrible but she lives along way away and doesn't travel any more. It was always likely she wouldn't come but I was hoping she might, I miss her so much. Most things are under control, I think. Your wedding sounds like lots of fun. What kind of food are you having at the reception?

DD was a flower girl for my sister's registry office wedding. It was incredibly small, 8 people in total. Her job was to walk in front of my sister and her husband as they entered the room together. We told her that her job was to make sure BIL didn't run away . She then sat with us during the ceremony. Her only other job was to be photographed looking pretty.

She took both of her jobs very seriously.