Worried About How Many People I am Going to Offend.

[xstitch]

Money is tight so we are planning to get married at the registry office with only parents, siblings and children of the guests. MIL to be has hired a hall and DJ so that we can have a party later that night and celebrate with friends and more family. Its her gift to us. After reading another thread I am now worrying. So many people seem to find it offensive to receive an invitation to an evening reception. I don't want to offend anyone but it seems as if I am being really rude :(.

Don't worry about it.

I have seen these ridiculous messages on Mumsnet - its insulting to only be invited for the evening; its insulting that you don't invite my children.

I think most sane rational people understand that sometimes, quite often infact, people have budgets for their weddings and very few of us have limitless pots of cash.

nickel, wasn't getting at you personally lovey - it's ok.
I love the wedding ceremony bit too but if I miss out on it because of limitation of funds etc., I understand.
The only wedding I was a tad about was one where I was asked to the wedding ceremony because my voice was needed in the choir (it was one of our choir members getting married) but then only invited to the evening reception - so I had 3 hours+ to kill and didn't want to drive all the way home again. Was on my own and seemed to be the only one of the choir people in this situation :( but I still went with a good grace and had a ball at the evening do.

blimey, thumb that's a bit off.
we invited all our choir and they came to the whole day.

well I thought so, I must admit - but hey, it's all about costs and space in the end isn't it. And I did enjoy the singing! :)

exactly - the primary factor in all of these situations is cost and space.

and you do your best with what you've got.

Really? People are offended by an evening only invite? Bloody hell.

Have a good day, xstich. SOUnds like a good way to do it.

not ALL people, nethunsreject (good name!) - just some guestzillas that frequent the weddings board. :)

I know exactly how you feel, have been going through exactly the same emotions and worries as you. At the end of the day, it's your day and you should have whoever you want there, at whatever time you want them there. If they are that offended by only getting an evening invite, then they shouldn't bother going anyway, which will make your evening more relaxed.

I am hoping to do a similar thing, but both me and fiance have HUGE families so it'll be family that we upset as we'd like some friends there more than family! Wish we'd eloped when we had the chance!!!