LizaTarbucksAuntie Wedding Dilemma Update

[LizaTarbucksAuntie]

Quite a few of you kindly posted on ym thread when we thought we might change our date because of future FIL's diagnosis.

We've finally decided (after a fair bit of soul seraching) to leave things as they are for our lovely July Wedding.

We felt anything else would be 'wrong'
we thought hard about what future FIL would prefer and what he might like to witness - we decided the whole thing was important to him and it gives us all something positive to be focusing on while he undergoes his treatment.

Fingers crossed and your good vibes please that the treatment goes well and I get my long promised dance with my lovely FIL in July.

Not seen your other thread Liza but just wanted to post to say well done for reaching a decision and I hope you all have a fabulous day.

I've not seen your other thread Liza but it sounds like we're in a similar situation. My dad was recently diagnosed with cancer, and we too were planning to be married in July. It is very hard to work out what is the right thing to do isn't it? I'm glad you're at peace with the solution you've come up with, I hope that there will be no further ups and downs for you through the course of your wedding planning. Here's wishing you luck for your future wedding.

I think it was under my previous usename dingdongmerrilyascheese.

Thank you, we do both feel much better this way, the indecision was as bad as anything I reckon and once we figured out what to do at least we can get on with booking the things we wanted.

Dizzy - best of luck to you and best wishes for your Dad, it's just horrid and I hope things go well for you all.

Thankyou. Cancer is never something you imagine dealing with when planning your big day is it? We're still talking things through and trying to find the best solution, we think we may have hit upon it - civil ceremony at the registry office sooner, and humanist ceremony on the day instead. There are pros and cons to both the original plan and this new one, though this new idea will give us the flexibility to plan our wedding around my dad's health which will help. First and foremost has always been how my dad would feel though - above all else we wouldn't want him thinking he's responsible or taking something away from us.

Dizzy that's how we felt and it is horrid, I felt awful even thinking about the wedding under the circumstances, but we had to work out what we were going to do.

Your plan sounds like a really lovely one. my complication was that I'd done the registry office thing before and my parents were so looking forward to church thing - gives us a lot less flexibility like you say, but he is also quite focused on 'making it' and moving it closer might have felt a bit we were saying 'we don't think you'll make it' which would have been horrid.

I hope so much he'll beat this, chemo started yesterday so just waiting again now, poor old DP.

i'm new here so haven't read your previous thread. I just wanted to say I think you've made a very brave decision and let you know I've got my fingers crossed that the treatment works for him and you get your first dance

My brother moved his wedding (by 18 months!) after my grandfather was diagnosed with cancer and given just a few weeks to live. We organised in the wedding in just 5 weeks! My grandad lived for another 13 months.

Thanks Imnotaslimjim

Things seems to be looking better than we expected, although the current round of chemo is taking it's toll the previous ones have been making an impact and at the recent consultants appointment they started talking about radiotherapy. We're keeping our fingers crossed.

Fingers crossed that the treatment is helpful and that he is still in fine fettle by the Summer!

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Thanks lovely - we need to get in touch don't we about your visit over here this month.

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Oh YES - that is just my colour . Actually - we're not coming this month now Dsis got a cheap Eurostar ticket so they are all coming over here instead......I forgot all about it....Sorry!