How to word this?

[BachAtTheMoon]

DP and I are getting married in August and I have a dilemma with the invites. We have decided that we do not want gifts. DP says we should put an insert with our invitations stating this.

There is already an RSVP card inside the invite and I'm worried that it will be a bit full.

My Dad says we don't need to put anything inside at all and should just leave it up to the guests as to whether they want to bring a gift or not.

I'm not sure what to do and don't want to cause a load of confusion!

Forlorn Bump!

just add it onto the bottom of the invite

"no gifts thank you"

There's the 'no presents, just your presence' thing.

Why don't you suggest people buy 'you' something from the Oxfam catalogue?

We resolved this by having an Oxfam Wedding List - so people can buy goats, loos, malaria pills etc on your behalf. People often do want to buy something. It only need be one line - the website and your reference number - would that not fit on the bottom of the invite? Or, leave it and when people ask direct them to the site.

Its my first wedding but not DP's everyone we have asked, is someone we are in contact with.

I think we should let people know when we get in contact, as the invites have already been printed.

This wedding lark is definitely stressful!

How about writing on the back of the envelope "no presents just your presence"

I think it'd be easier to put something with the invites or you'll just end up having to say it to loads of people individually

Are you hand writing people's names at the top of the invite? If so, just write "Please no gifts" or "No gifts, thank you very much!" at the bottom.

I don't think you need to say anything at all tbh - if people want to buy something they'll call and ask if you've got a list somewhere.

Presents/presence is a bit, ahem, cheesy.