Wedding Invitation Wording - Please help!

[TequilaMockinBird]

DP and I are getting married abroad in May. When we return, we are having an evening reception/party for all those friends and family who cant be with us on the day.

We have somewhere booked and now need to order some invitations but, I have no idea what wording to use.

Most of the samples online are along the lines of Mr & Mrs X invite you to the wedding of their daughter Tequila to Mr Tequila etc. Now, some of you may know from previous threads, my mother is a vicious, narcisstic fuckwit human being. And my lovely father is no longer with us.

So shall I put DP's parents on there and DP's name first? Or shall I mention my father (Tequila, daughter of the late Daddy Tequila). Or do I not need any of this and just put 'DP and Tequila would like you to join them for a pissup party'

ARGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH Help please!!

Because by then you'll already be married, I would suggest inviting from you, the couple.

Something like 'DP and Tequila request the pleasure of your company to celebrate their marriage...'

Sounds wonderful, I hope you all have a great time.

Thanks for replying

So do you think to use our married name so 'Mr and Mrs X' or just our first names 'DP and Tequila'? Or even 'DP and Tequila X'?

I'm so clueless at things like this!

put what you want!

there's an awful lot of nonsense about what you "should" put on a wedding invite. i would just ignore it and go with whatever you're comfortable with.

we get on very well with both sets of parents and they have, between them, paid for the whole thing, but they've had nothing to do with the planning and the only names on our invite are ours and our children's.

It's your wedding, so don't be forced into anything because it's the "done thing". Personally I find all that formal formulaic stuff sets my teeth on edge.

Are DP's parents hosting the evening? If not, just leave them off and make the invitations from you and your new dh. I'd just stick with first names - these are your friends you are inviting, aren't they?

Just imagine it was a 30th birthday party, how would you word it then? You wouldn't be "requesting the pleasure of their company" would you?

Something along the lines of 'DP and Tequila would like you to join them to celebrate their marriage'?

Although IL's are paying for the wedding, we are paying for the reception ourselves so that's why I wasnt sure whether or not to put their names on? I know you're both right, it's what we want that matters but neither of us are very good at things like this!

Infact, if it was a 30th birthday party, I still wouldnt be sure what to put on the invite

Bump

I think that is perfect. If you are hosting it and it is relatively informal then I think that is right.

We only used first names. I had my invites done by Wickedly Innocent who are less traditional, but very helpful! Have a look at their website for less formal wording.

Have a wonderful wedding!

Thanks fox, I'll go and have a look at their website now

Your wording sounds fine, just as long as it is natural and not too "stiff".

Anyway, hope the wedding goes well!

Rachel and Simon would like to invite you....

If it's just the party, then I would say use first names.

It depends on a) whether you're changing your name and b) if you are, how loved up you arewith being Mrs Tequila.

if a is yes, and b is very, then nothing wrong with putting Tequila and mr X.

sorry, i meant Mrs Tequila and Mr DH X
(put both your first names)

Ah so my name would go first? I thought DH's name would go first - so DH & Tequila blah blah blah...

Told you I was useless

fuck that!
I think it's traditional for the man to go first, but all in the name on feminism, eh!

on our wedding invitations, my name was first - on the orders of service, half of them were me then him and half were him then me.

Feminism is good! I'll go with that!