Just wanted to share

[Threelittleducks]

the worst wedding I have ever been to.

I think I will be recovering for the next week. I have such a bad headache (am pg, so nope, it's not a hangover - I bloody wish!!)

It was the most lavish and beautiful day - a lot of money had obviously been spent to ensure they had it ALL.

And they did.

But it was the most superficial, love-redundant wedding I have ever been to in my life. Really painful - everything was about the 'image' of the couple. They did EVERYTHING that you could have for a wedding , but the total lack of atmosphere and flashiness of it all just ruined it. Plus they went on a 5 HOUR PHOTOSHOOT while the guests sat in their house and waited.

After it was all done, I'm not even sure I can say that they ven LOVED each other! I never saw them together all day, they didn't even look at each other during their vows!

My own wedding probably cost about 1/100th of their wedding - actually, I know for certain that the bride spent more on her dress (that she didn't allow anyone near, including children, anyone with a drink in their hand, any women with make-up on - seriously, she yelled at them to stay away!!) than we did on our whole day.

I had an amazing wedding day - I really did. Because dh and I really love each other, and it was very obvious to everyone else. And there are things I would have liked to have done differently (like had a big meal rather then the buffet at FIL's house) but I wouldn't change it for that wedding - not for anything!!

I mean theirs was a beautiful wedding - so beautiful, but just terrible!!
How though? How did this happen?
It was like a show. A big show.
It wasn't just us either - nobody was having fun.
The worst bit was we had to do an interview towards the end of the night saying how much of a good time we had had that day on camera! For the couple to keep. Dh and I were knackered (I'm heavily pg at the mo) after the long long day, we had just eaten (at 10.30pm - that's how ong the day took - we had been on the go from half 12!! That was the first food we had all day) and were lying through our teeth. Felt horrible.

Ugh what a day. I have a mad headache and feel like I've been run over by a bus.
And just feel really awful for not enjoying their day after they went to so much trouble.

They took over 1300 photo's too, so am going to have to prepare and grin through them too

have you recovered yet?

well everyone's wedding is different as no wedding is the same. As some too long, too short, too dull, too lively, etc....

Does it make me a bad person that this post made me chuckle? We all have different ideas about what makes a great wedding, and from those different ideas comes different experiences of the day - whilst you're here thinking it's the worst wedding you've ever been to I bet the bride is congratulating herself for it and thinking it's the best Neither one of you is wrong or right (not in an objective way anyway).

I'm like you though, from the sounds of it my wedding will be infinitely better than hers as well

Last year I went to a wedding that cost 30k, and another that cost 5k.

The 5k wedding, did not followed the usual wedding traditions, it was all very personal to bride and groom, very informal and an absolute scream. There were only 50 guests and the food was divine.

The 30k wedding was at a beautiful hall, but not half the fun. The bride had done things for the sake of doing things, if that makes sense.

I was at a wedding this week - very, very small. So personal, so moving, everyone was in tears. The bride and groom had written their own vows and every word seemed to express how much they loved each other.

There were no fancy do-dahs, no colour-cordinated scheme, and I thought it was beautiful. But I also know that one of my friend's has a massive and very close family, and the concept of a small wedding like that would be unthinkable for her.

God, I'd have been feeling the same about that kind of wedding :o

I think sometimes people get so caught up in the 'wedding' they forget why they're doing it in the first place, my main aim is to do everything simple and personal, you can throw money at anything but it doesn't necesarily make it special :)