Help me WRT weaning :(

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My DD is just over 23 weeks old. I was really keen to do BLW, and to not wean until 26 weeks etc, but have had that completely squashed

My Mum gave her babyrice the other night made with some defrosted BM whilst I was in the shower. Everyone had been harping on about doing it, but she just sort of did it. This has upset me massively as I didn't even get to give DD her first solids myself.

Anyway, she's now having a bit of babyrice every day, but I'm struggling as I don't seem to be able to express anymore and feel like I'm squeezing the life out of my boob to get some milk out to mix it with. I don't know anything about weaning, baby led or otherwise, and I feel lost. My Mum keeps asking me what I'm going to do, and then telling me that it's wrong and I should do XYZ instead. I'm feeling really depressed at the moment on top of everything else, and am struggling with feeling so useless WRT feeding DD.

Sorry, I don't think much of this is making sense, I'm feeling v. lost. But how can I go about starting BLW alongside the baby rice/pureed stuff? What is best for pureeing to give to her?

Any help appreciated greatly!

I understand that your mum gave her rice once without your consent, but if you aren't happy with continuing, just stop. DD will be fine on milk alone and you can stop worrying about expressing enough to mix it with.

However there is absolutely nothing to stop you doing BLW right now - I know she's not 6m yet but the point of blw is they only do it when they're ready. So stick some steamed carrot sticks or chunks of pear on her highchair tray and see what happens.
If she can get it in her mouth she is ready and you can wow your mum with her skills. If she can;t then you have the evidence that she's not ready for solids yet and your mum should back off.

this is a fab page from the NHS re weaning - try the banana challenge!

Agree with MrsBadger If you are not happy just stop. My DD is also 23 weeks and we are doing a combination of BLW and puree veg. I give her chunks of food like brocolli and melon but have also given her puree potato, butternut squash, parsnip and pear. She loves her puree, and tends to just squish her chunky food into her face. I wanted to do BLW but after a choking incident my other half paniced and now isn't keen on BLW.
We did the banana challenge, it was a real tear jerker she was so excited lol.