Hi,
I like your nickname! I'm afraid I don't have the answer, as we're facing a similar dillema. Our nearly 8 month old has managed just one feed a night before, but more often than not wants at least 2 feeds. The last few nights we've been leaving him to cry and grumble if he wakes before 2.30am (the time we know he is capable of going to without a feed). He has still been waking a couple of times before this and can settle himself within about 10 minutes, although just being awake and listening to him a few times a night is causing us to be exhausted due to the disturbance.
As he is still waking a few times despite us implementing the 'watershed' time (before which we will not feed him), we have decided that we will wake him for his feed at 2.30am whether he has woken himself or not, the idea being that at no point will he be the one to dictate when he is fed, I worry that currently he doesn't have any concept of what time it is that he wakes and doesn't understand why he's fed sometimes and not others, thus encouraging him to cry for a feed whenever he wakes.
Anyway, tonight will be the first night of us setting an alarm to get up and feed him at 2.30am (if I feed him any earlier than this he wakes for another feed before morning). If he wakes earlier than this we will leave him to settle himself, and if he's awake and grumbling or crying at 2.30 we will also leave him and wait until he's gone to sleep again before I feed him.
I'm not sure whether any of that is useful. If I were in your shoes there would be a few things I'd do; I'd make sure your little one has plenty of 'slow to digest' carbohydrate food at tea time and give her tea as late as you can, perhaps time it so that she finishes her meal about an hour before bedtime. I'd then decide on a time before which she won't be night fed because you can be absolutely certain that she really doesn't need feeding before that time, based on the longest she has slept for in the last 4 weeks or so. If you haven't already, I'd also recommend you look up information about controlled crying, it really does work, we did the first two difficult nights of this method about 2 weeks ago, and although our son still wakes, he now only grumbles and cries mildly for no more than 15 minutes before he settles himself. Lastly you could think about setting her feed times, perhaps two feeds a night, and waking her for them so that she knows that YOU decide when she's fed rather then her deciding for you.
GOOD LUCK!!!