Dispair!! Dairy intolerant (we think) and now not eating solids!!

[Donada]

My DS is 6 mths have been weaning with usual fruit and veg - v successful until I gave him a fromage frais - immediate blotchy face and sneezing, I have since given him hipp organic creamy porridge, milk powder in porridge mix, and he got a an irritated rash which calmed down within 10 mins also slight swelling of lips. Doc has referred us to Paed Consultant and told me to keep away from dairy - he has been exclusively BF. However, he has now become tight lipped when feeding and won't take the food he used to although he will glady BF. I'm besides myself with worry that he is not going to thrive - has anyone else had a similar experience?

Thanks

my ds was dairy intolerant, after the very start of weaning he didn't really then eat solids until 9/10 months. i was stressed but it seems it is quite normal.
hipp organic banana rice pudding doesn't have any milk in and is a firm favourite. it was the only successful thing we had for many months

he's now low on the weight chart, but he's fine and well developed. i know how you feel. i was so stressed about it. but he is eating well now at 14 months. i would not worry second time around. hvs were total scaremongers too though.

when he does start eating again take it very gently. one food at a time, go back to total basics.

i give my lo flax seed oil to make sure he gets the essential fats. he still bfs alot though, its a nightmare.

get 'what can i feed my baby ' by susannah olivier. very handy and she says no babies should have dairy or wheat for first year so recipes are very good

Same as Kalo, DS dairy intolerant, not to the extent that your DC I think, but he has only just got the idea of 3 meals aday and he is 10.5 months, didn't start eating soids of any kind until 7 months and it has been slow to get here.

Thanks Kalo. HV has said that he could be allergic to whole more stuff - which has made me feel great!! I will look for the book do you think babies associate the solid food with the discomfort of the reaction? I'm hoping that it's a transient phase!! Looks like it'll be carrot tomorrow then!!

babies do often protect themselves from allergic reactions if left to control their food intake
it can lessen the allergy if they are allowed to refuse food until their system has matured a bit
if i was you i would do BLW and let him have complete control over what he eats
don't worry about calorie intake at this point - milk is more than adequate and will be for some time, if necessary
it is more nutritious and more calorific than fruit and veg purees, for instance

Would second the hipp organic rice pudding as my DD still eats it at 15mths.

Would he eat more fingery food type things? Roasted/steamed veg instead?

Franny that explains a huge amount, DS refused from the spoon but would try things if we did BLW.

thats what i thought too, but those hvs know nothing, honestly. but slowly slowly.

its only the banana rice pudding which is df btw.

i cut it out of my diet too for six months, but i got too skinny so i went back on the chocolate eclairs

Will try the BLW and take a deep breath and stop being the paranoid first time mom that I said I would never be! It's comforting to speak to people with same experiences - all my friends with babies are all tolerant and eat anything with quite smug mommys - all least thats how I'm feeling in my emotional wiped out state!!!!

oh don't worry about being a para first time mum, i was too, infact weaning and dairy free sent me round the twist, i ended up with pnd. you will worry but its fine, knackering with the bfing though.

my ds went from 50th centile to 0.4. but he is fine and does everything he should

Franny and FGMID (I'm in Poole where are you?!) with BLW do I offer a variety of foods for each meal and let him 'pick'?

Kalo - oops yes did mean banana rice pudding one.

DD also eats the banana & peach dessert too.

My dairy allergic DS really didn't take to weaning until he was 9/10 months either.

Allergic babies are definitely naturally more cautious.

We did a bit of BLW and loaded up spoons for him to feed himself, but it took ages for him to come round to it which was very frustrating.

The first thing he ate that he really enjoyed was pear puree.

He is now 2yrs and 3 months and eats very well. He is a bit skinny, but has maintained his weight on the 50th centile.

donada yes that's it
do you know the excellent BLW forum? they're very helpful and have allergy section

you could offer eg banana, slice of melon, oatcake, for breakfast

roast carrot, parsnip, potato, for lunch

it doesn't have to be really elaborate

ime it takes them longer to start eating 'well' but when they do they are off and away

an allergic child will feel eg tingling in lips and not want to eat a food that sets off a reaction
if you mix up the foods in purees then ALL food becomes suspect
just offer things and allow to try at own pace - even if just playing with / touching food that is good, as he has had a bad experience and may need time to 'trust' food again

He did eat banana and papaya but the HV said not to let him eat the sweeter foods, I'm figuring that something whether it is sweet surely has to be better than nothing! He is currently sat between the 91st and 75th centile so has lots of reserves!!

Lulworth, and we just gave DS what we were having, we also googled BLW and came up with some great ideas.

TBH think some veg is just as sweet as fruit ie parsnip, carrot & sweet potato.

And at this stage its just about textures/tastes and playing with food etc...

My DD is 15mths and only really got going at about 11/mths and will now not let me feed her at all (apart from her hipp pudding)

Franny will look at the BLW forum, I'm assuming its on this site - thanks all for the advice, I'm feeling very reassured.

"the HV said not to let him eat the sweeter foods" ???
give him a taste of anything, IMO a variety is good but if he is anxious about food I would give something lovely and sweet - why not?

BLW forum is here - it is run by lovely Aitch from MN

actually babies naturally prefer sweet things as in nature sweet things indicate they are safe to eat, thats why babies prefer them as in the days of hunter gathering when babies first start to learn to feed themselves choosing sweet things is a safety mechanism that stops them eating poisonous berries. Very clever these babies, much cleverer than hvs!

sweet things like bananas, carrots sweet potato,

mash things with breast milk if you can. but don't worry if he doesn't eat anything for weeks

Interestingly today I have discovered that he is allergic to bananas which poses a dilemma. I mixed some banana with the baby porridge, so is it the banana or the milk in the porridge? The reaction with the strawberry fromage frais and the porridge was v different, should I chance it and try him with porridge on its own?!?!? Any of you guys got any advice having been through this type of thing before? Thanks

what kind of reaction did he have to the bananas

Just itching on the face, same as with the porridge - have spoken to another HV today who said it could be contact dermatitis as he didn't get hives anywhere else but his face. His skin was quite raw due to dribbling from teething. So still none the wiser really. She told me to use vaseline when feeding, today he ate apple for breakfast, brocolli for lunch and butternut squash and pear (albeit small amounts)for dinner so we are progressing.