13 month old eats very well for granny but never for me :(

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my dd is 13 months. she's tall and strong and happy, but she won't eat for me or DH. And especially not fruit/veg.

My mum watches her whilst we work and she eats very well there. She also sleeps very well at granny's house whenever we need a break, but is up 2 or 3 times a night here.

I need some advice on how to get her to eat for us and also to eat more healthily.

Today's food intake was:

breakfast - I offered cornflakes, toast and an apple. all refused.

Snack - mum gave toast, she ate it

Lunch - mum gave a paella dish. she ate it.

tea - refused cheesy pasta with chicken. refused a petit filous. refused an apple. refused some grated cheese. refused bits of ham.

gave in and gave her some quavers and a custard cream biscuit

I'm so annoyed. why won't she eat for me

even at weekends, when I'm not at work, she won't eat anything

PS as for veg, we have offered celery, peas, broccoli, carrots, mashed potato, sweet potato - no luck!

Is there some difference in the rules at granny's house and yours - not re food, specifically, but about other things too? Is granny generally stricter, does she let your DD "get away" with less than you do?

"gave in and gave her some quavers and a custard cream biscuit"

Well there's your answer then!!

no, it's not the answer actually. she gets more sweets at her granny's actually. I'm the stricter one.

The bedtime routine is exactly the same as ours, I have checked. my mum is careful to do things our way.

your mum might just be telling you things are going well but they might not be.

Does granny give sweets after meals, though?

my 14 mth refuses everything. always has done. eats one tiny meal in ten and will demand bf all time. he is extremely active, skinny and i'm sick of it. no advice to offer just sympathy really. my dh looks after him two days a week and he still refuses most things.

bloody abboying isn't it.

I don't think it's uncommon for children to do things for other people that they won't do for their parents - don't ask me why!

Looking at your list, I wonder if she is just holding out for something - I don't mean the quavers etc, just that she gets a lot of choices at each meal. How about offering just one healthy option, then taking it away, looking utterly unbothered when she refuses - so, ok, fine, and just get on with your meal.

Offer a snack later, and just leave it somewhere, point it out to her, and then wander away.

Do you eat with her? That can also help, if you try to eat as a family.