so my mil says the reason my dd doesn't like her veggies is because i blw'ed her.

[warthog]

is she right?

dd (nearly 3) only eats carrots, peas, sweetcorn and beans and doesn't like cabbage, sprouts, marrows and other veg.

apparently this is because i let her eat what she wants and hasn't got used to the taste of other veg. i should have pureed veg and shovelled it down her gob.

DS was BLW, and eats anything - is 2.8 and will give anything being eaten by anyone else a try

Dnephew2 was puree weaned, loads of diff veggies, and as soon as he could make a decision refused to eat any fruit or veg, and has continued that to the present day when he is 14 (no SN etc)

stealthsquiggle, she's not eating a huge range of veg raw, just some beans and carrots. maybe a bit of cabbage.

mil is worrying that she's not getting enough variety.

i personally hate veg and would never eat them again if i could. mil has hit a raw nerve because i don't want dd to be like me!

Whatever is wrong, they'll blame the thing they didn't do themselves.

TBH, the cabbage family require a slightly more sophisticated palate to be appreciated. Your dd's too young to like them! Nothing to do with blw.

Don't know how blw works, but presumably at some point in her life you will give her the opportunity to try sprouts again (Xmas?) and one day she'll like them - or she won't. If she's eating beans etc then she's getting greens and other veg so her diet's OK.

MILs sometimes need to criticise. My MIL thought I shouldn't be faffing around with purees and actually refused to feed them to dd when she was babysitting (so didn't feed her at all). She thought I should be buying those nice jars they have in the supermarkets. Silly old bag.

dd1 was fed purees and loves fruit and veg but little else other than fruit and veg. She would prefer to miss out whole food groups if she could get away with it.

dd2 was blw and will anything put in front of her, or indeed anything she finds on the floor that looks at all edible. She thoroughly enjoys cat food

I'm impressed your DD eats sprouts - brave girl, I think they're horrid!!

My DD was BLW and eats nearly any thing offered to her, your MIL is wrong...

My 1yo BLW DS, until recently, would never eat more than a bite or 2 of a vegetable unless it was green. Courgette, peas, brocolli, green beans, spinach are all favourites but carrot will only get touched at all if there are no 'better' veggies around!

So yes, she's talking rubbish

ha, ha, ha.

no

now serious.

if my 3yo ate what your eats, i'd feel blessed.

mine will only eat carrots and broccoli (occasionally)

this is yet another one of those classic mil things - just ignore. My ds will eat most veg but not cabbage or sprouts (I mean come on how many children do?) will your dd eat tomatoes?

Fwiw I thought it was now said to be better for veg to be lightly cooked than it was raw - which irked me no end as ds loves raw carrot/sweetcorn etc

my DS did eat sprouts, when he was in veg-eating mode. And cabbage. Not now though, although interesting what someone said about plain steamed veg being too boring for them when they start eating more complex foods...

giantkatestacks, a combination of raw and lightly cooked veg is better than all raw or all cooked. Raw veg/fruits have more enzymes and usually retain more water-soluble vitamins (Bs and C); whereas the fat-soluble vitamins (A,D,E &K) are more easily absorbed when the vegetable is lightly cooked and eaten with oil/fat. Tomatoes for e.g. are better cooked in or with oil/fat - it is easier to absorb the carotenes and lycopene from cooked tomatoes.

Ah, yes, thumb - spot on. I knew about the tomatoes/lycopene thing, and I guess that's true for quite a lot of veg. That said, raw is definitely better than nothing.

what about veg that's been cooked to smithereens?

Oh yes of course she's right

DS is six months and is currently being BLW'd and you know what his fave is? Broccoli

DD's fave veg is brussel sprouts.

What a complete and utter load of rubbish. Strong bitter flavours don't go down well with the under fives normally unless they have a cheese sauce on.

Offer to send your MiL these offending veg so she can fall on her sword and eat them all up to save wastage

veg cooked to smithereens is generally lacking in the water soluble vitamins as they have all been cooked out of them into the water. In fact, some of the minerals have probably gone into the water by then as well. The resultant mush might be easier to digest but will lack something in the nutrition stakes. If the water is to be drunk as a side dish, or is used as gravy with the veg, then at least some reclaim can be made on the lost vits/mins. But not all, as Vit C in particular is heat sensitive.

well thanks for all the support. sometimes i get a bit pissed off at what gets thrown at me.

this was after her comment that women get pnd because they don't get enough sleep. i nearly throttled her, as i'd had pnd for a year. she didn't seem to be around to sprout that advice at the time...