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Totally confused re weaning

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notcitrus · 02/01/2009 13:55

Got invited to a course of sessions on parenting recently, which were mostly pretty good. Last one was on weaning, but everyone left that one more confused than when we started.

Apparently while you generally shouldn't introduce food before 6 months, it may be an idea after 4 if your baby is very hungry. But food is much less calorie-dense than breastmilk, so how does that work, seeing as if the baby has food in their stomach milk won't fit too?

Also apparently you have to make sure the baby takes food in by 7-8 months or they won't get nutrients they need - so is that 'food before one is for fun' not true?

The midwife had never heard of baby-led weaning which a couple of us asked about and asked us to explain because obviously she was against-force-feeding. I said I thought it was about not bothering with purees and giving the baby solid food in his hands from the start (not sure!) She was shocked andsaid not giving baby puree/mashed stuff to start with was right out as there was a huge risk of choking if they hadn't had a month or more of mush (something about stage 1/2/3???)

totally confused now. advice from my mum was she was just told 'the baby will tell you when she's ready' which she didn't understand until one day i reached out and nicked her ham sandwich [midwife:Oh my GOD!] - but then i was also given loads of brewers yeast and wheatgerm in my bottle and other stuff they don't recommend now.

help? A is only 16 weeks and I'm not planning to give him any solids for a while.

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ruddynorah · 02/01/2009 14:01

jeeeez no wonder you're confused!

the midwife sounds half confused herself.

around 6 months your baby will pick up food..maybe a ham sandwich and chew it and swallow a bit. that's baby led weaning..waiting to wean til they can feed themself.

anything about 7 or 8 months as a deadline is nonsense. the choking thing is daft, they can choke on puree as much as anything. they do gag a fair bit at first, but that's to stop them choking, so a good thing.

reikizen · 02/01/2009 14:11

Firstly, relax! Weaning is like most other aspects of parenting. There are no hard and fast rules, just trial and error. See what suits you and your little one. Professionals (and I speak as a student midwife) do not have all the answers, they just give the advice they believe to be best/most appropriate/evidence based whatever. Weaning is not set in stone (neither is walking, talking, potty training etc). It's easier with baby number 2 (isn't everything) as they just have to eat what everyone else is eating, no ice cube trays of spinach and papaya shit for them! Don't panic.

MrsJamin · 02/01/2009 14:23

that midwife has no idea what she's talking about - sorry I think you wasted your time! You are right - she is wrong. Definitely stick to your plan and try baby-led weaning - it's great. DS is nearly 1 and eating whatever we eat while some of his puree-weaned friends are still on 'stage 1' fruit puree.

notcitrus · 02/01/2009 16:48

OK - anyone got some good sites I can look at so I know what the real risks are? I took away some sheets produced by the PCT dietitians which say what foods are ok first, which only from 6 months and what to avoid for a year, which looked sensible.

I've just had a 12-month-old and 7-month-old staying for Christmas which was an interesting insight into how much mess can be made by one baby who's insisting on self-feeding and one who was a bit poorly respectively...

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