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what is it with MIL's and mums and the sugar pushing?

17 replies

deaconblue · 28/11/2008 12:38

my mum acts like I'm a cruel mother for giving dd rice cakes instead of biscuits. MIL has given her a chocolate advent calendar (she's 7 months old ffs). Am amazed dh and I have any teeth if this was how we were raised.
so - sugar pushing stories purleeeese

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pudding25 · 28/11/2008 13:45

Thankfully, none so far but mil is amazed that I don't add salt to dd's food. She is 6.5 mths.

Just eat the advent calendar yourself and tell them all to shove off

MamaHobgoblin · 28/11/2008 16:13

I think it's the old thing about being strict with your own children and indulging your gc... I'm getting this a lot from f-i-l - he wants to give ds (9 months) chocolate and so on, and says I'm mean to refuse! I think he just wants to see ds's face, but I bet it wouldn't be any different to his face when he tries a new savoury food.

Christmas should be fun, hey ho.

kellyannlondon · 29/11/2008 22:22

ooh I was going to start a thread on this re my mil!

When ds was 11 weeks old, we were having a cup of tea and chocolate biscuits and she suggested rubbing some chocolate on his gums so he could have a taste!

Now ds is 10 months old and for the past week he's been off his milk and food. I was talking to her on the phone earlier this week about it and she suggested putting drinking chocolate powder in his bottle and then tonight called dh and said we should give him a Milky Bar or drizzle chocolate on a banana (ds's favourite)

No wonder my dh has so many fillings!

The thing is, and I don't mean this horribly but she is very obese and I would have thought she'd want her grandson to avoid that. I get made to feel bad for trying to be healthy.

Ivykaty44 · 29/11/2008 22:24

They learnt it from their mothers when they had you - doesn't mean they were like it with their own babies

littleboyblue · 29/11/2008 22:28

The amount of people that bought my ds an easter egg this year was shocking. He was 7 months and although I'm quite relaxed in most things parental, I don't see/understand the point in giving my ds a piece of chocolate if he's just as happy with a strawberry or piece of cucumber.
Now that he's 15m, he is allowed biscuits and chocolate but not as a regular thing

chunkychips · 29/11/2008 22:35

I can understand it. Grandparents want to threat their grandchildren, it's their role in life.

pudding25 · 30/11/2008 10:17

They can treat their grandchildren in other ways without ruining their health -ok, maybe that is a bit extreme but there is no need for a baby to be eating chocolate and biscuits. Plenty of time for rubbish when they get a bit older and they are at parties every weekend stuffing themselves full of crap. If they want to treat them, buy them a toy or a book or play with them for a while.

CharCharGabor · 30/11/2008 10:19

God yes my mother brings dd a bag of cadburys buttons every time she comes. DD much prefers broccoli.

muppetgirl · 30/11/2008 10:22

we get

'oh dgs you haven't finished your dinner, here, have some chocloate'

'oh dgs you've been running around the dinning room shouting your head off, here have some chocloate'

I am sat fumming in a corner.....

pinkmalibu · 03/12/2008 20:41

My mum was told by a HV to put drinking chocolate in my milk as i wouldn't drink it and i ended up having quite bad baby teeth as a result. I'm 28, so that advice is a bit old!
I work (or used to)as a community dental nurse, we used to see only small chidren with bad teeth who refused treatment. The amount of kiddies we'd see who'd have to have all there baby teeth out because they had decayed beyond repair was unbelievable! And these were mainly children under 6! most done under a ga.

With my past experience i've said i'm not introducing sweets etc to my DS until he's school age or there abouts. And even then it'll be as a rare treat. Sounds harsh maybe ( or so my mum and mil's think) but if they'd seen the things i've seen they'd agree with me. xxx

pigleychez · 03/12/2008 21:09

My mum is the same..

She seemed shocked when I said no to her giving her a Milkyway at 3mths old!

Think it must be a generation thing.
Last week an older lady was cooing over DD (4mths) in Tesco's and asked if she had tried Chocolate yet. To my reply of No, she joked that DD should be calling Childline! Sly smile and then quickly moving on!

pigleychez · 03/12/2008 21:11

pinkmalibu- My mum also told me to put some strawberry crusha in her milk as she was being a pickle drinking that day. Again was shocked I said no way.

ChukkyPig · 03/12/2008 21:12

They do it because when the baby gets the jam, the GP gets a big grin!

As long as it's not every day...

(My DD goes to my parents 2/3 days a week and my dad has taken to buying a big bag of hot cross buns EVERY DAY...)

CapricaSix · 03/12/2008 21:17

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TheDevilWearsPrimark · 03/12/2008 21:19

Nothing wrong with sweet things every so often.

Some fruit has a higher sugar content than chocolate.

pinkmalibu · 03/12/2008 21:32

Advice now-a-day's is that you should only offer water inbetween meals. Fruit does have sugar in and the acid from fruit also harms teeth. I agree that there's no harm in a sweet treat every so often but sweet things are best given after a meal, so like as a dessert. It's more about setting the right eating habit's for your little ones..ie sweets are treats not something you have everyday. x

notnowbernard · 03/12/2008 21:37

Ice cream by 10am at MILs

DD (not then 3!) fancied some, apparently

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