oh dear, I have got weaning all wrong, oops

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First I kind of forgot to wean dd2 til she was about 7 months (we were going on holiday and...you know...)

and then I have been giving her citus and tomatoes and mushrooms, which apparently is Very Bad.

And them I haven't actually been giving her 3 meals a day...she just gets whatever is ok for her to eat from our meals (ie whatever hasn't got salt/sugar etc in it). In fact, I'd say that up to now her diet has mostly consisted of pasta and bananas.

(she is breastfed and to be fair isn't that interested in food, its not like I am actually preventing her from eating)

Oh dear.

On the upside I am always rubbish at this and my other kids seem to be ok.

I fear I may have inadvertantly set her up for a life of crime or something. I wonder if there is a correlation between criminality and birth order (she is the youngest of three)

Ha. Sounds rather like me and dd. Also went on holiday. Suddenly realised she was 7 months and we should get cracking when she grabbed piece of bread and munched it down before we had a chance to stop her.

Isn't the whole no special food thing the great plus of late (or natural or whatever) weaning? I always assumed so.

7 months - sounds fine to me.

Citrus, tomatoes and mushrooms - why bad? Who says? Did anything bad happen?

3 meals a day - why is 3 the magic number?

Sounds like you've done it all correctly, that is, as it suits your human baby and your family's arrangements. Not what some book or hcp says.

See, you're just a natural

Sounds alright to me. And infinitely better than racing to get her on three big meals a day the way some parents do.

have had telling off off hv

I mean, I do accept that the guidelines are there to prevent allergies, botulism and what have you. I am not being "lalala I am so clever" or anything

I am just a little shocked at how rubbish I have been this time around. Ds1 (pfb) was utterly, utterly, by the book, at least at first . I mean, I had a chart on the wall at one point...

(actually, I still DO have that chart on the wall, I think...god I am a bit useless...)

Sounds fab to me, you're doing fine! Main thing to remember is milk is still main source of energy and nutrition, food is for fun until they're one, and relax and have fun with it.

What you're doing is called by some baby-led weaning, i.e. sling them a bit of what you're eating, then stand well back while they try to feed it to themselves!

Telling off?

She's not your first, yet you're listening to an HV!

Mine last week said I had to give DD2 fish, I said "oh yes".

We're all veggie btw, and both girls are in perfect proportion and rude health!

oh lol yes have taken piss out of aitch for reinventing the wheel blw before ut it is always nice to give parenting crapness a posh name to make it out intentional.

I frequently forget to offer DS3 a proper meal - he's 16 months. He tends to snack during the day, then he'll have what DS1 and 2 have for dinner (or at least will pick at it).

Mind you he still loves his milk (usually 4 x 9oz bottles a day) and I can't for love nor money get him to cut any of them out to get him to eat more.

Still he seems to be thriving on his diet so I'm not bothered

Nothing wrong with citrus, tomatoes or mushrooms in a post 6mth baby unless you are super-scared of allergies because of definite tendencies in your close family.

Please dont lets build up another set of rules!!

real life conversation in our NCT post natal group (children around 25 weeks at the time)

competitive mother one "well i'm sure dd can almost read, she gives me a big grin whenvever the petit filous pot comes out"

CM2 "well i never give my ds anything processed, my dd gets apple puree with mascapone, she can't get enough of it

CM3 "i'm not convinced that dairy is safe for children this youg, i make my own custard from expressed breast milk"

silence then CM1 " do you know xxx is giving her baby citrus fruit"

shocked slilence as extent of slovenly risk taking behaviour is absorbed

lol witch

tiktok I am glad to hear that, I thought maybe I was suffering 3rd baby amnesia. I didn't recall citrus etc being a problem.

looking back it might have been better if she hadn't been chewing on tangerine peel for the visit, but never mind.

hang on witch i have just noticed that you make your own custard with ebm

um

now how do you do that w/o eggs? or are eggs ok?

wow - making custard with ebm! That's dedication. My dcs were lucky if I squirted a bit in their porridge

Hvs do have a thing about three meals a day don't they? I got told off by mine with dd1. For the other two I just lied...

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I had a friend who gave her pfb strawberries but took all the pips off first.

One of the HVs (think it may have been an HV's bag carrier, actually) told me babies couldn't have cheese as it was too salty.

So I made cheese from SMA Progress (and very vile it was too).

After that it was "here's the tub of cottage cheese, the spoons are in that drawer. Get on with it". If you pander to them, they take the pee, don't they