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Weaning 15m old off bf - cmpa allergy

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C18 · 03/08/2025 12:41

Hey!

my 15m old dd is a boob monster and has cmpa, thankfully just an allergy to cows milk and no other food allergies but of course, I am dairy free for her to BF. She has 3 meals a day plus a couple of snacks if she wanted. Meals are a bit hit and miss, sometimes with eating every meal given to only eating one whole meal a day and picky with the other 2.

I have tried offering soya / oat milk and soya growing up milk which I thought she’d of liked as it’s a bit sweeter than ordinary soya milk. She will have this in cooking, just not via a cup or bottle.

I work from home therefore she has me on tap I suppose. I’ve tried saying no and try to distract her but it ends in tears and then I feel upset. She snack feeds from me during the day, and I mean 5 seconds and then she’s off playing again etc.

Suprise! She doesn’t sleep through the night either. She starts off in her cot at 7pm and by 8.30pm she’s already woken up twice. By 11.30pm I cosleep… I need sleep… therefore she feeds quite a lot through the night still.

I really want to start weaning her off breastmilk as I’d like to get ‘a bit of a life back’ and go away for a night here and there with my husband but how can I when she depends so much on bf?! Any ideas? How can I get her to accept oat/soya milk? How can I start weaning her off me with not so many tears?!

Sorry, I’m rambling. Don’t get me wrong, I love breastfeeding and I’ll be really sad when she weans fully off me but right now I just need a bit of leeway with life in general and I thought by now she’d only be having a morning feed and a night feed🫣

(ps, I am going to start the milk ladder soon with her!)

OP posts:
C18 · 03/08/2025 12:47

Also to add… she doesn’t even take expressed breast milk in a bottle or cup either! But I do think I have high lipase so don’t blame her! But that isn’t even an option for me to pump as it just get poured down the sink!

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BunnyRuddington · 03/08/2025 17:44

I wouldn’t worry about getting her to drink alternative milks just yet. Neither of mine would touch any other milk until they knew that BFing was over.

Instead i would tackle the night feeds.

I would try Dr Jay Gordon’s gentle night weaning method.

Then when she’s had a couple of weeks to get used to not having night feeds you can start cutting down on the day feeds.

Its going to be harder if she’s used to you always being there but you can start with the “don’t offer, don’t refuse.

Do you have any plans to put her into daycare?

Sleep, Changing Patterns In The Family Bed — Jay Gordon, MD, FAAP

I can only imagine a mom and dad who are as tired as anyone can be, eager to see this article on sleep, and finding that we had made it unavailable for a little while!

https://www.drjaygordon.com/blog-detail/sleep-changing-patterns-in-the-family-bed

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