10 month old

[melwhitters]

Help! I am a second time mum and very very stressed and I guess upset about weaning.

My son is nearly 11 months and will not eat anything unless it is pureed. He will simply gag and throw up anything he has eaten if he comes across a lump. I find this very distressing and he is also upset!

As for finger foods, rusks he will put in his mouth, suck a little then throw about and the same for toast!

My first son was bad with lumps, I remember but can't remember how bad and what I did to move on...

Please help!!

So sorry to hear this. DD was the same with lumps (though she never threw up because of it) and time was all it took. Very frustrating though! Is it worth checking with your doctor?

I'm with you there having exactly the same problem with my DD2 feel exactly the same very stressed and down HV breathing down my neck feels like it will never end but i'm sure will work out in time DD1 eats like a trooper now!

angie 0201,

glad I am not the only one... i keep putting the lumpy food off just because its easier for me I guess.

What plan of action do you have if you have one?

To be honest i haven't really got one!! guess i'll start adding some mashed potato or carrot with the puree then gradually bulk it up and try to get to just mashing our dinners up as for finger food they will do it i guess when ready cant force them to put it in their mouth, just keep putting bits on her highchair to pick if she wants, but getting lots of pressure from hv, let me know how you go, look at it on the bright side they wont be like this when they are 3! hopefully

I had the same with my dd. I was convinced there was something wrong and her throat was too small. She has only just started to eat lumps in the last couple of months - and she is 2!

Don't worry about it, give him pureed food and try with small lumps every couple of weeks or so. I found I stressed dd out (as well as myself) by trying to force it.

he'll do it in his own time.

good luck

Thanks... the advice is helping...

He had a suck on a rusk today for a bit, and i gave him some thin strips of cooked sweet potato before his pureed dinner. He looked at them, played with them, but ate none! Still, I am trying I guess.

See what happens.

I have the same problem with DS who is also nearly 10 months. I did some BLW with him from about 6 months which he really took to but i mixed it with purees and eventually he just preferred the purees and it's really difficult to get him to eat anything lumpy now, he will just stick his tongue out and try and spit it out. Though he will eat pieces of fruit sometimes like mandarin segments. He also likes breadsticks and bread. I'm trying not to stress too much, as long as he eats something - purees are still good for them and eventually they will learn to accept the lumpier food - though i am now thinking that it's the in between puree and solid texture that is putting him off. I think we could probably just go from the puree to real solid food and forget the lumpy stage as it's probably something the baby food manufacturers made up to sell more products.

elesbells has your dd had trouble with speech as my hv reckons my dd will if she doesn't eat lumps/finger food

well I am having exactly this issue with my daughter.. (10 months tomorrow) infact I just posted a thread today, before seeing this one.

I am also getting the doctor breathing down my neck..she keeps asking what she makes for noises and the fact that she is not babbling (by this i mean clear lalal daaa sounds)- seems to indicate a speech delay..possibly due in part to not chewing.. she keeps saying to offer bread or bread crusts to chew on..but our baby will not take it. Baby rusks she brings to her mouth once has a tiny nibble and spits the crumbs out or looks disgusted. Then she tries to feed me with it instead i.e put it in my mouth and not hers.. then after two minutes she is bored with it and throws it about and then starts to reach for her toys to play with those instead. She also shows no interest in what we eat. She watches, yes, and laughs when we say yummyum..but if we offer her anything she does not eat it.

She gets her 10 month checkup in 10 days - so I will raise the issue then and maybe we will visit a few specialists who will check her out - just to rule out a medical condition. But I am glad to hear I am not the only one. I just spoke to my MIL on the phone who is german..and in former eastern germany (30 years ago) all baby food was purees - there were no stage 2 or stage 3 jars. She gave total purees until around one year of age.

It is worrying though, as there is that immense pressure..and when I see 7 month old babies happily eating rusks etc..in their prams..I do feel bad..I mean my daughter is now 10 months!

I know this is a puree thread not a BLW one but honestly, we BLWed my 21 mo DD and she didn't eat anything properly until she was about 11 months, maybe the odd bite but that was it. The mantra I think is 'until they're one it's just for fun' and milk should still be the main food. I would have thought that still applies with purees. Providing they're still taking plenty of milk it probably doesn't matter if they take their time getting used to the textures etc.

Bekkie32, we all worry about something... I remember watching other children run around at 12 months whilst my (then) 18 month old sat on her bum all the time but then I realised that she talked far more than others of her own age or older. And then at 20 months she just suddenly got up and walked and that was it. I think the same is true with eating, sleeping etc. - every child (without a developmental problem) is different but eventually something 'clicks' and they're fine.

My little girl is in hospital right now as feeding issues and drinking issues have reached a peak. She is actually refusing everything and not gaining wait. So we will see if there is a medical issue concerning her eating..we had to take her to hospital due to other issues too (developmental)..so we will see..

..if feeding issues persist sometimes a checkover helps to ease worries a little too. then you know if it is simply the baby taking his or her own time, or if something else may be the reason. will keep you all updated.