I have an 18mo who started off eating a wide range of foods at 6 months and self feeding pretty well. Everything seemed to go down hill around 12 months when I switched over to ordinary milk from formula; she became incredibly and constantly constipated, was eating less food and I couldn't reduce her milk intake. At 14 months things seemed to improve and by 16 months she was down to 1 bottle of milk a day. It's taken a lot of effort to reach this point, but while initially I've been quite pleased and relieved, I'm starting to have doubts and would be grateful for any advice.
So breakfast is usually either oat bran of barely porridge with mashed fruit, and some yoghurt. Lunch and dinner she has the same thing- usually lentils/split peas with mashed veg (variation of carrots, aubergine, courgette, onions, peppers, sweet potato, parsnip, peas, sweet corn) and a protein (mince meat, shredded chicken, salmon), and either rice, pasta, bulgar or buckwheat. I make this myself. She'll also have some mashed fruit I prepare. All of this I spoon feed her. She'll snack on puffs, wafers, or alphabites in between meal. She won't eat egg, hard cheese or bread. If I spoon feed her anything larger than 2 peas' width in size, she'll spit in out or take it out of her mouth.
Firstly, is her diet varied enough? Secondly should I be concerned that she is really not inclined to feed herself with a spoon? Thirdly, if I present her with anything new, she never eats it. Any new snack (store bought or otherwise) ends up on the floor. Finally, although she can use a sippy cup, she will only drink milk from a bottle (and increasingly water too).
Many thanks for your help!