How soon after stopping breastfeeding did your libido return?

[rockl0bster]

Stopped bf 1 month ago, periods came back 3 months pp. currently about 7 months pp. feel nothing down there and it's affecting my connection to my partner

Also when should I buy new bras?! Boobs p much at prepreg level if a tiny bit bigger

Mine never went . Good thing because l BF for two years.

Are you on the mini pill? That tanked my libido. It wasn't breastfeeding at all.

Does your partner pull his weight around the house and with childcare (esp nights) and for the mental load? If you're too exhausted for sex and he isn't, this might be the source of that mismatch.

It's nothing g to do with him, he's great, but I feel numb down there and don't even enjoy masturbating!

I don't think it's to do with bf tbh.

You've been through a massive life event that changed your hormones and your body. If you gave birth vaginally, you might have wounds or residual trauma feelings.

At the point you're at I attempted to have a coil put in and my body spasmed massively - on two occasions. Just wasn't ready.

Rest and patience are probably your best friends with this. It takes at least a year for your body to fully recover from birth and pregnancy. Your body was changing for nine months, it just takes time to recover.

Mine never really did so I’m not sure I can blame BF at this point! I do suspect I’m early perimenopausal though (would fit with family history of early menopause) so could be that.

That is what I felt like on the mini pill!

Im not on any contraception. My orgasms are very muted too. Worried it's some kind of permanent nerve damage (forceps, episiotomy). I just don't want to be like this forever - it sounds frivolous but it feels like a big part of my personhood and humanity has been taken from me. Am finding it very distressing tbh

I find the more I work on my pelvic floor the better the orgasms. It also helps with the loss of feeling a bit. It really hasn't improved with age sadly.

Are you on Sertraline by any chance? I know that this can kill libido.

Nope! I feel like I am on antidepressants though - feel a bit emotionally numb (can't cry). It's definitely not depression - have been there in the past - perhaps low estrogen? Can anyone relate?

I am both BF and on Sertraline. I feel as you describe. No libido, loss of sensation and dryness. It improved slightly after my first period at 9 months PP. This is my second child and I BF until I was pregnant with my second, so don't have much knowledge of when libido will return. I kind of force myself to have sex because I think otherwise I never will and about 4/5 times I do really enjoy it when I get started. I just wanted to say you're not alone ❤️

I find my libido noticeably shoots up around the time I'm likely to be ovulating. So even though I'm still breastfeeding, I'm like a horny dog for a few days each month.

That said, I'm 5 years passed my episiotomy/forcep delivery and it did take a while for sensation to return and my climaxes to be good again. I reopened the scar during my 2nd birth so had stitches again and still feel pain around the old incision.

Yoy are only 7 months PP. It was probably a year before I felt things were healing properly. I would make sure you work on pelvic floor excercises, as I think it plays an important role. Give it time though. Your body is probably just trying to tell you its too soon to have another baby.