@RedPandaFluff parmesan cheese, the real thing, parmigiano reggiano and second, grana padano , has the highest content of calcium of all cheeses, so you can compensate the lack of milk by having meals with a high cheese content.
In France, soups are one of the main meals for babies. Light or thick, blended or with the tiniest cubes you can manage to cut, with a generous serving of parmesan, is a good meal.
We also serve a homemade broth, and you cook Italian baby pasta in that broth and serve it with parmesan and sometimes even a cube of butter.
Risottos, a rice dish prepared by cooking it one ladle of broth after the other, with a base of veggies, blended asparagus, pumpkin, or even white with parmesan added in the last 5 cooking minutes, leaving some extra liquid is a dish for the whole family.
The baby food industry somehow has this genius marketing stunt to call junk food, finger food, and loving parents don't think twice about the actual ingredient of these ultra processed food. A melty puff is an extruded paste pushed into a shape. It is corn flour and oil - like Doritos or Cheetos. Difference is that instead of salt, they add a nutrient-void vegetable powder so they can add the name of the veggie on the packet.
In France, we don't categorise food by the mean in which they reach the mouth, finger or spoon. This debate is so odd to me. We focus on the quality of the food. IF you look at the ingredient of the Ella cottage pie, it say 26% water, 25 % potatoes, 10 % beef..... seriously make a stew, slow cook beef in a rich sauce and then serve some with cubes of polenta,
As adults, we eat some food with a spoon, some other with a fork and other with fingers. Food is food, not a learning session for motor skills. Babies and toddlers learn all day long how to use their fingers, You are not going to impair her by not giving her crap snacks.
If you want to increase milk intake, try pancakes, creamed corn, cornbread, gratin dishes that use béchamel sauce.
A whole asparagus is a good vegetable she can hold, would suck on the tip, and practice chewing with her gum, but the fibres won't break. A whole green bean, even a stick of celery, to give her real veggie taste. She can suck on it and if it is the heart, it won't break.
You can give her blueberries, poached banana, oven roasted apples slices, as fruit
Oven roasted slices of zucchini, eggplant, Brussel sprouts cut in appraise size is a good to add vegetables that are no blended .
What I don't like about veggies pouches is the excessive amount of sweet tasting stuff added, so apples with parsnip, and also the fact that they will build a taste preference for artificial food and combination. Nobody eats blueberries and spinach in the same dish. These tastes do not exist in real life.
Go for real food, and if she doesn't like the taste of milk, don't force it. You can get calcium from many sources including some you might not consider, such as hard tofu. Slice it, bake it in the over and offer cubes.
You can make you own rice cakes in the oven too. Overcook rice, drain well, add cooked veggies such as chopped kale or spinach and a bit of olive oil. Make a ball in your hand. Squash it on a baking tray covered with baking paper. Bake in oven at high temperature.
This way you have nutrients. An industrial rice cake is empty calories. The high pressure and heat needed to make the rice pop as if it was popcorn, removes all nutrients and just leave a very high glycemic index.
So to answer you title : My only critique is the excess of ultra processed baby food.