Baby losing weight

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My boy is 9.5 months old

Formula fed from birth

Started weaning at 5.5 months with a little rice and then baby porridge.

Started on a combo of baby led and purée which all was great. He had an episode of being quite sick about 3 weeks in, and since I've had trouble with weaning.
He won't eat anything with a lump, veggies even when hidden or why I call 'meals'
He likes baby porridge, all fruit purées, Greek yogurt.
We've been building back up slowly after I was at my wits end from exhausting all food options, served hot, room temp, cold, purée in pouch, homemade etc
He will now gum im food of what I eat, but doesn't actually eat it as he spits it out as soon as it breaks off...
Spoke to HV at last weigh in clinic and she just said keep trying...which is what I have been doing for 4 months!!

He has started to drop a bottle himself, so has an 8oz bottle in morning (normally leaves a bit, which I then make his porridge with)
A couple of oz around 11.30-12
4-5 oz at 3.30
Purée at 4.30
And bed time bottle at 7ish which he takes about 6-7 oz of. I don't think this is enough milk being as it's his main source of food

I've noticed today when doing his nappy up that it feels a little loser than normal. I'm worrying he isn't getting no where near enough. I keep offering him food and milk, but once he is done he point blank refuses more. Will spit milk out or clamp mouth shut.

Our next HV weigh in clinic is two weeks away, so will take him to that and have him weighed to keep an eye on him.

Any tips on how to get him to maybe eat more, or have the bottle that he seems to have stopped at 11.30ish?

We don't let him have chocolates or sweet puddings yet as I wanted to establish him with food before allowing him it as k ow he will most likely only want the sweet stuff then.

This is my first child, so have no prior experience with weaning.

He needs actual food with calories. The aim of weaning is to fill him with food so he isn't living off milk. Purees and yoghurt won't be adding many calories to his diet. He should be having around 700-800 calories a day at this stage and would normally be well into solids.

If you think there's a physical or psychological barrier to eating solid food then a trip to the GP might help - a referral to a specialist may take several weeks.

Have you tried mashing / chopping / grating as a mid way point between purée and solid?

Hi @Shelley54 thanks for reply.
When I spoke of my concerns to the HV they brushed me off with his weight remains on the same percentile and fo just keep trying. I didn't feel that was best answer, but I'm no expert. We have a pead appointment coming up for a different issue, so I will mention to them my concerns also and see what they suggest.

I've tried to mash food, and I've added his formula (to potato, sweet potato, and Swede, mashed carrots etc) as advised this is a way for baby to get use to new tastes with something familiar.
Tried grated, but he doesn't seem to be understand picking it up and putting in mouth.
Tried baton sizes
Tried food warmed up, room temp and cold, tried giving him what I have, at the same time to watch and learn.
Tried fresh fruit in natural form.

I had a very slight break through last night with a Heinz pouch of sweet potato, chicken and carrots which he actually ate some....he wasn't massively into it like say porridge, but he was opening his mouth for more, and not spitting all the lumps out. I made a big thing with each mouthful of 'food boy' and 'well done'
Going to have the other half tonight and see how we go

Have you tried any of the baby 'snacks'? The puffs/rice cakes? We found that those really helped DD get used to physical food and using her hands to feed herself. They disintegrate inti nothing so aren't a choking hazard and aren't too lumpy to get used to. Obviously, I wouldn't count them as a meal or rely on them, but they were a start for us. Then we started giving DD bits of food on her high chair table and ate ourselves. She always was interested in our food so we'd give her a bit of mash etc and she'd have a go. Most of it ended up on the floor, but now she'll eat anything.

Even now, I soon feed her her weetabix in the morning, which she eats but she gets bored. She much prefers food she can feed herself/hold.

Also, imo, don't worry about using pouches or jars. At 6m DD despised anything with as much as one tiny lump. Now she eats whatever. If you need to use them to get through, it's fine.

How many oz would you say he's getting a day? My 9.5m would have roughly 6oz in morning, 6oz middle of the day and 6/8oz before bed- so anything from 18 to 20oz which HV said was fine.

Weaning is tough, I've found the lack of exact information really difficult. I still don't know what a good portion size is! But itll be okay in the end

@PepePig thank you for replying.
I guess he is having same amount of milk as your little one. I give him a 8oz bottle in morning, which he never finishes, so what's left I make his porridge with, he is having roughly 6oz around 3pm and then another 6-8oz before bed.

He has porridge for breakfast and around 4.30pm he has a fruit pouch.
He managed a little of the sweet potato and chicken pouch again last night, so very slow progress.

He will suck on the puff things, quavers, wotsits and things like that.

He stole out of my mums hand her croissant and sucked it to death.

I give him a bit of my food to let him play with/suck/taste/throw just so he is getting use to different tastes and textures. I think it's a slow and painful (for me) journey, but we are starting to see very slight improvements. He use to have about 5oz around 11.30 but he just will not take that at all now, but food intake hasn't increased to compensate who his why I worried....I guess they go through so much like teething/growing/leaps/sleep regression that like us, appetite decreases.

Ok. As a start I'd recommend the Ella's kitchen banana and coconut pouches. They're purées but they're the most calorific of the pouches available so at least you're getting calories in.