BLW and baby throwing things...!

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hhhhm. has he ever eaten anything? it's not uncommon for babies to throw things off their highchair at about 9 months, i think it's a developmental thing 'what will happen if i do this?' sort of thing. but if he's never put a morsel to his lips i can imagine that would be very stressful for you. what happens when you do try him with a spoon? or soft stuff like porridge? does he get his hands in and lick his fingers at all?

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how much do you put out on his tray at the one time? do you ever feed him with just a plate on the floor, while you're doing other things?
cos as i see it, yes it would be better if he did feed himself, insofar as it would at least be more convenient for you, but at the end of the day if he's happy with you holding the food for him or spoonfeeding him then i'd probably just go along with that. not for any other reason than it's better not to stress about these things, i think.

maybe try putting less on the tray, or letting him have finger food while you're sitting on the floor doinig something else, but basically if he's really not into it he's really not into it, iykwim? you'll know.

or you could just go back to milk only for a few days and forget about food entirely, then start again with one single stick of carrot and see if that helps him make the connection?

i've seen plenty of people saying that their babies didn't get the hang of really eating babyledweaning.blogware.com/blog/_archives/2007/5/21/2966051.html and babyledweaning.blogware.com/blog/PollsOurFAQSection/BabyLedWeaningFAQ until later, but i imagine it's a pain in the arse though. i'd give those things a try, tbh, then re-evaluate after that. i'm more thinking out loud than anythin else but hth

Even if you do spoonfeed him, he can still choose how much and how fast he eats. You just have to watch for his cues, and not try to persuade spoonfuls in.

I think just keep encouraging him by holding the food up to his mouth - he will get the hang of it. Also, if you spoonfeed him sometimes, give him a bowl of something quite gloopy and sticky - like prridge mixed with mashed prunes - and let him try using the spoon. He won't always hold it the right way up but as long as the food sticks to the spoon, he can have a go. DS loved this from the age of about 6 months. He got it everywhere but he did eat some.

(We basically did a mixture of spoonfeeding and BLW - though I didn't know about the BLW "movement" at the time - and it worked well. Though I recently had to repaint the wall beside the highchair )

I don't think I did BLW because if i did mine would have wasted away i think, way to lazy.

No I used to give mine an empty bowl and a spoon, then hold their food bowl and spoon feed.....when i noticed they had got to grips with how to hold a spoon and it didn't go on the floor every meal time i would put a little of what i was feeding them in their bowl and while they were concentrating on that i would sneak mouthfuls in (I think i can hear gasps of 'how dare she')....we just prgressed gradually until one day they both (i have twins) refused EVERYTHING I offered them, I got wound up cos i had made the effort to cook it, so put the bowls down gacve them a spoon and said 'u do it then', I walked away, into lounge (within ear shot, don't panic), walked back in 5 mins later, food gone and NOT on the floor.

never looked back.

Have to say though, this was all much later than 9 months

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i just think that all these things are suggestions, iykwim, not religions. plus, i think there's a big gap between spoon-feeding with a demand feeding head on rather than a shoveling head on. self-feeding is great, but presumably some babies come to it faster than others and only you can decide where your comfort levels lie with regards to waiting it out.

by 'all these thigns' i mean blw, co-sleeping, baby-wearing etc btw.

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