13 month old feeding

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Morning all!
FTM to little one with diagnosed CMPA, GERD and possible chickpea and sesame allergy. At the minute we are doing the milk ladder and currently on cheese on toast. Little one loves toast!
I am wanting to know how to go from me feeding mashed up food to him feeding himself? He will eat cubes of food himself and like I said toast soldiers. He loves raisins too!
Just been reading a thread and someone said that a one year old should be spoon feeding itself by now. Well my little one isn’t and I’m a bit worried now on how to make that transition?
He currently eats mashed up foods, sometimes can be funny about lumps and spit out.
Any help would be greatly appreciated. Also ideas for meals too please. He can’t have anything too acidic as this plays havoc with his reflux, so no tomatoes.

Give him his own spoon while you feed him. This allows him to associate the spoon with eating and he will get to work on fine motor skills a little too. Hopefully, he will put it to his mouth intermittently, and encourage this. Once he starts to put it to his mouth put your hand on top of his and dip it together in the food, put just enough on the spoon so it is just a taste. Do this a few times throughout the meal until he starts to get the hang of it.
Once he’s mastered this, give him his own little bowl of food. The suction bowls work well at this stage. The trick is to only give a little food in the bowl at a time. At this point you are still feeding him most of the meal from another bowl. If he is doing well scooping up food and at least getting some of it into his mouth, put more and more food into the bowl for him to feed himself. If he isn’t showing much interest or is having a hard time manipulating the spoon, then help by putting your hand on top of his and moving through all the steps of scooping and putting the bite into his mouth.
Continue in this way with 2 bowls until you are giving him more and more of the actual food in his bowl and less from yours. When he’s feeding himself most of the meal you can stop using your own bowl. In a short time you will only be occasionally helping with a large bite or when he turns the spoon the wrong way. Most babies won’t get the hang of it until around 18 months.
It is also helpful to keep in mind that thicker foods will be easier to scoop and keep on the spoon. Thinner textures may be frustrating initially.
It will get messy!
Meal ideas suitable for this stage:
Risotto. Other rice dishes don’t tend to stick together on the spoon so well so can be frustrating.
Red lentil dahl veggiedesserts.co.uk/red-lentil-dahl/
Cottage pie
Fish pie
Scrambled egg
BBQ bean pie www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/11689/bbq-beans-with-mashed-potato-tops
Chicken pie www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/11191/easy-chicken-pie
If you feel that mash-topped pies are getting too boring, mix it up by using sweet potato, or incorporating parsnips, carrots etc... Marmite or Worcester sauce in the mash also went down well with mine.

Some very useful advice there thank you so much. I’ve let him have a spoon from the start of weaning so he’s very used to it. I will give him his own bowl with a small amount like you said and help him. Thank you!
I’ve just been making him some pasta and a butternut squash and sweet potato sauce for his tea tonight, fingers crossed it goes down well!
I think I need to give him more finger foods to play with/eat as well so I’m going to make more effort with this. He loves feeding himself, I just need more confidence in myself!

Well the pasta ended up all over the floor! He was not a fan at all