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I don't know what to do

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Disasterpol · 15/09/2017 08:31

DD is one. Weaning has been slow. She's starting to eat a bit more now, but still not huge amounts. She drinks nothing and that's the one that really worries me. She can suck water out of the cup no problem, but just spits it out. It's a game. I am trying so hard not to react, but I don't know what to do.

I know they get water from the food they eat - but she doesn't eat much. I spoke to the HV about her non-eating and she said not to worry, she'd get it eventually, "just as long as she's drinking enough". I said she wasn't but she didn't really answer that, just kept reiterating that "as long as she's drinking enough" then there was no need to worry about slow food progress.

I am still breastfeeding once before bed and once or twice overnight. But I'm so fucking sick of it. I want to stop. I don't want to have to do it anymore, but she won't drink (water or milk), hardly eats and I just don't know what to do.

Last time she was weighed she had dropped a couple of centiles but I was still feeding her a lot at that point. The HV told me to cut back and she has started eating a little bit more, but still won't drink. It's breaking me. I feel like every day is a relentless treadmill of offering food that isn't eaten, clearing up, offering a drink, mopping it up, resenting breastfeeding, and endlessly worrying about what it's all doing to her. She's such a merry little soul, but I'm struggling to enjoy any of it!

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 15/09/2017 10:47

She doesn't really have to drink if you're Bfing, so please try not to focus on that too much just now. How are her poos? If they are hard, then I can see your point, but if they're soft, she's fine. FWIW we had a good 2 clear weeks between stopping Bfing and ours taking milk in any kind of quantities. Some things to try are making lollies, using straws and adding vanilla essence to her milk.

How would you feel if you bf in the day but weaned her off the night feeds? If you want sone help with night Weaning I can post some links.

Do you think it would help to talk all of this through with a Bfing Counsellor? Have you got the Helpline numbers?

As for offering food. My DD ate very little at this age. A good book to look at is Help! My Child Won't Eat.

Disasterpol · 15/09/2017 16:40

Thank you for this. Poos are fine - she isn't dehydrated yet. Ideally I want to stop breastfeeding totally - I'm just done with it. But I'm nervous about stopping before she's taking more in. I would be interested in the night weaning links - just to see what general advice is!

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EveryoneTalkAboutPopMusic · 15/09/2017 18:16

The Dr Jay Gordon method seems to work for a lot of people. Have a read and see what you think Smile

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