When to get strict about throwing food

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DS is 1 next week. He likes certain finger foods but he is starting to get difficult to manage at meal times because he insists on throwing his food and his water cup. It doesn't mean he doesn't want it, just that he is asserting himself. E.g. he doesn't want food on his tray until he says so - he'll throw food away if I give it to him, but then instantly beg for it back and eat it. It's starting to drive me crackers. Is he big enough to say NO now and not give it to him if he throws it? It's different from the end of the meal when he throws the food away because he's had enough.

I would have stopped this a long time ago. I would not give it straight back to him until I was ready and then if he threw it away again then again i would make him wait.

We've been firm on this one for months and months but dd (21 months) still does it

Be firm if you have the energy to follow through with it! If not I wouldn't worry.

Never too early to teach decent table manners.

He is old enough to understand 'no'. YOU are in charge. He has his food on his tray when you says so, not him.

If he throws it away, you take it away, and don't give it back. Get him down from the table/highchair whatever, as if mealtime is over./ you carry on doing something else for 10 - 15 mins, ignore any tantrumming.

When YOU are ready (after the 15 mins), start the whole lunchtime process again. Repeat as necessary until he works out that his behaviour doesn't work.

TAKE CONTROL NOW

Same problem here with dd (almost 13 months). No answers, but it is improving slightly, to give you some hope.

thrown food gets took away.

they get that one = the other soon

So how do I stop my DS throwing what he has finished with on the floor? He gets that if he throws food on the floor or refuses to eat, then that is the end of meal time. He still has this habit of throwing the remains of a sandwich on the floor. He wouldn't care if I took it away as he is finished with it IYSWIM?

I have found if mine throws food he has finished eating. Not something I'd ever get strict about. It's an experiment, 1 year olds love testing gravity!
They work out eventually not to do it as they observe you clearing up, as they get older they often like to help out (well all my children have) and sweep the floor. They they realise not to drop/throw food on purpose.

But he's not even 1 yet? he's a baby not a naughty toddler thats why you have splat mats, my dd will be 1 next week too, i'm very strict on table manners but disagree on the taking away of food and telling off a baby.

dd always throws her food off the table when she's finished. i honeslty think she's trying to tidy up as the process generally starts with her dropping some small things into her cup. she's 14 months old and just recently i've started to hold my hand out so that she can put the food into my hand rahter than on the floor. she enjoys that and i don't have to bend down to pick it up. we've also been working on an 'all done' sign.
Plus i would also say not to put too much food on the table at a time as i think sometimes dd gets overwhelmed by her urge to tidy...

I pick it up twice saying No, dont throw it on the floor and put it back on her tray.
third time, I just throw it away
no big deal

I am doing that mad poncey baby led weaning thing though, if that makes any difference

freak

i only give a bit over at a time. i only pick up once, twice if it was an accident. i don't make an issue of it. she hardly drops a thing, i guess i still have it to come.

and yes i too am a blw ponce.