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I thought I had this weaning business almost cracked but now see I am probably killing my baby!

59 replies

GTFrau · 01/03/2007 16:39

Sorry, this is very, very, very long!

I have largely followed the advice (the bits I think sounded sensible, ignoring any bits I didn't like) in Rachel Waddilove's Book 'How to Enjoy Year One'(well if it is good enough for Gwyneth ). DS is a fab almost 9 month old now who has always slept well etc. based on her 'routines' so when it came to weaning him at 6 months I saw no reason not to delve back into the book.

RW says 'At this age they can pretty much eat what the rest of the family eat, well mashed, as long as you don't add any salt to your cooking'. Fine, sounds like a sensible interpretation of current advice to me and because I feel we eat a pretty good, normal varied diet I figured this is the best route for us - but looking through some threads to find out some ideas for restaurant feeding him when we go on holiday next month (because of adding salt, actually) I have been reduced to a quivering wreck by some of the posts!

No, I never ADD salt to my cooking but, I use tinned tomatoes in our food, DS eats bread and I have even been known to use the odd stock cube where required. (We have recently moved to Germany and they don't seem to be into 'low salt' anything, but I have remained calm and rationalised that the amount of salt in toms etc. must be OK. He loves eating weetabix for breakfast and sucking cheesespread off of fingers of toast sometimes for lunch. He eats what we ate the night before 5 days out of seven (so far the only thing he has poo pooed is avocado) and the rest of the time he gets something virtuous from AK's book or something more 'nursery tea' biased from my head (cheese spread on toast, well cooked scrambled egg etc.). Am I being a terrible mum with this salt thing or are some people just choosing to take things to the 'nth' degree (which is fine, no criticism intended). I am seriously twitched as I would never do anything to harm my DS (obviously) and have always prided myself on knowing what's what but now I feel quite ill with worry!

While I am at it - I may as well also confess that while he adores eating plenty of fruit etc. he has also partaken of the odd 'naughty sweet treat' such as (gulp) a spoonful or two of ice cream and (big deep breath for courage) also had a teeney weeney bit of chocolate from our chocolate fountain on a piece of banana the other day when we had friends over for lunch. He also eats the odd children's yoghurt (battening down hatches now). All these things I thought were fine, in moderation, until today.

I thought I was just trying to rear a child who enjoys all kinds of food and has a healthy attitude to it - not make him obese or poison him with salt and just need some well rounded advice, guidance or reassurance.

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themildmanneredjanitor · 01/03/2007 16:44

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Jillyadoodledoo · 01/03/2007 16:48

Sounds nice and balanced to me

pelvicflawed · 01/03/2007 17:20

My DS is 9 mths and we've done much the same as you - he now often has what we have just minus the salt and extra oohmp when curries/chillies etc are concerned. He eats bread, cheese and has even been known to eat cheese spread/wheatbix and we live off tinned toms in our cooking- I used to be really careful but now I just err on the side of caution e.g no obviously salty manufactured food(so no marmite yet) and I rinse tinned pulses that are in salt/sugar water etc etc. He's also had chocolate - as an very occassional treat - I found he really enjoyed a dark chocolate square. So far he's been fine. I think its all about balance, avoiding reasonable excesses and learning that very occassionally treats are fine - I'd hope that DS grows up with a well rounded attitude to food - well thats the theory?!?

VeniVidiVickiQV · 01/03/2007 17:21

All things in moderation. Balanced, plenty fresh fruit and veg. Low/no salt.

sounds fine.

Enid · 01/03/2007 17:22

I do the same as you

p[lease dont worry

mine eats apple crumble and custard and treacle sponge

she has had choc chip muffins too

also she eats everything the dds eat - usually involves marigold bouillon powder somewhere down the line. I dont actually add salt to their food however.

she loves cheese on toast too (she is 9 months btw)

Enid · 01/03/2007 17:23

i have actually cut down teh amoun of marmite toast as she would eat it at every meal if she could

only once or twice a week now

staceym11 · 01/03/2007 17:47

as long as you dont add salt to things i dont see there is much of a problem, and as for the odd few treats, dont worry too much, no one really went mad like this when we were all little and we all turned out ok didnt we?

SoupDragon · 01/03/2007 18:05

WTF is wrong with tinned tomatoes?? The tins I have contain tomatoes, tomato juice and citric acid. No added salt.

Frizbe · 01/03/2007 18:08

Soupey get off the weaning threads its no good for your health!
Tinned toms are fine in my book, all my kids are still alive!

Twiglett · 01/03/2007 18:12

are you seriously concerned? because if you are you need to stop worrying

I would bet my bottom dollar that most people with more than 1 child do exactly what you're doing

seems perfectly natural to me

Twiglett · 01/03/2007 18:13

as for AK (annabel karmel) I flicked through it with DS and couldn't be bothered then either

and stock cubes when they're made up tend to be fairly low in salt

here's an admission .. I've actually started adding a little bit of salt to some of the things I cook .. because it just damn well tastes better

GTFrau · 01/03/2007 18:54

OMG Twiglett - now you are just freaking me out! Seriously, thanks to you all. I was genuinely getting a bit worried because I was reading other threads and starting to doubt myself. If the ideas on some of them are to be taken as read, you do end up feeling that you are actually being a negligent mother allowing your baby to 'normal' food rather than someone who believes they are able to take the advice given by the experts, apply common sense to interpret it (and sometimes use a 'pinch of salt' in doing so, ha, ha)and do their best by their offspring. It may be that I am feeling a little over sensitive about doing things right because I am alone in a foreign country (well, obviously have DH and DS with me!) and as such do not have the same network on hand yet to bounce things off of! Hence, here I am!

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terramum · 01/03/2007 19:46

Soup dragon - I keep womdering the same thing - most threads about salt include a reference to tinned toms - I have NEVER seen any with added salt - I am missing a huge conspiracy where they have added salt & dont include it in the ingredients?

Jillyadoodledoo · 01/03/2007 19:47

GTFrau - you have a HUGE network to bounce things off now

GTFrau · 01/03/2007 19:52

That IS good to know.

P.S Soup Dragon, neither do my tomatoes but they seem to be on the never to feed your baby hit list for some reason!

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SoupDragon · 01/03/2007 19:53

According to the nutritioal info there's 0.1g per 100g of sodium in tinned tomatoes but given that there is no salt (or sodium) in the ingredients I assume tomatoes themselves have this amount of sodium in them?

SoupDragon · 01/03/2007 19:58

Apparently 1 cup of tomatoes (not tinned) has 459mg of Sodium in it. But I don't know how much 1 cup of tomatoes weighs...

AitchTwoOh · 01/03/2007 19:59

my great-grandmother took great pride in adding 'a few grains' of salt to everything that her baby (my grandma) and her baby (my mother) ever ate. she said that it made the tastebuds work better apparently. my mother had to physically restrain her from doing the same to my food.
now, i know things weren't as processed in those days but just knowing that really helped me to relax about salt.

dd doesn't get much processed food (bread, biscuits is all i can think of right now) so as long as i'm not actually adding anything i'm not really that fussed about salt.

i think it sounds like you are doing a brilliant job. although i saw a programme with rachel waddilove on it the other night (funnily enough, about a childcare expert) and she persistently referred to 'baby'. not 'the baby' or 'a baby', just 'baby'. i wanted to reach into the screen and strangle her stupid head off.

apart from that she was fine.

welliemum · 01/03/2007 20:13

My understanding is, as long as their kidneys are OK (and you would know if they weren't), at this age they can handle a bit of salt just fine. There is a consideration that it's best for them to appreciate the taste of unsalted food as that's healthier in later life, but I really, really can't get excited about this.

(and dd2 aged 8 months has eaten anchovies! )

welliemum · 01/03/2007 20:14

PS we don't salt our food and have found that our taste perception of salt has really changed - can taste tiny amounts of it now and find other people's food really over-salted sometimes.

JolieGirl · 01/03/2007 20:18

Eeek - marmite! Have been regularly giving it to DS (9mo). Have not once thought it was high in salt, just one of 'those foods' that children like - and he positively adores it! Off to check labels diligently now, feeling v guilty

GTFrau · 01/03/2007 20:23

Yes! I know what you mean, she has her moments in the book too, which is what I meant about taking or leaving her advice as I chose - but in the main, I think it was pretty sane stuff for a beginner. I just wanted some guidance for routines and didnt fancy the other popular stuff on the market

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Enid · 01/03/2007 20:30

the dds alwasy love baby food in France

cos the jars have salt in

they taste nice too

morningpaper · 01/03/2007 20:33

I LOVE salt

I cook without most of the time but sometimes I sit down and think feck this and cover it with salt

GTFrau what you are doing sounds very healthy and balanced. I think giving baby family food is the easiest and most sensible approach.

Our parents probably salted all our food and we've survived

AitchTwoOh · 01/03/2007 20:44

welli, DH and i stopped adding salt to things when i was pg (high BP) and it's had the effect of making a lot of M&S type processed foods absolutely inedible. oh how we miss their macaroni...